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Make A Change

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If you’re looking for someone to change your life, you’re in luck. That person is YOU! As I mentioned in an earlier post today, life is short. It’s up to you to make your life as great as you want it to be. Here are 5 steps to help you make a positive change in your life.

1. Identify What You Want

Figure out what you want from life. Do you want to write a memoir? Then write it. Sit down and map out exactly how you’re going to make that happen. Are you tired of looking in the mirror and seeing a body that you’re not happy with? Then make a plan to change your body. Decide what steps you have to take to get the body of your dreams. You see where I’m going here. Whatever it is, identify what you want and strategize how to make it happen.

2. Empower Yourself

Take control of your life. Realize how powerful you are. If you don’t like something, recognize that you have the power to change it. Empower yourself to know that you can do absolutely anything you set your mind to.

3. Stop Making Excuses

Excuses are for people who don’t really want things. If you want to make something happen, you can. It’s that simple. There’s no such thing as being too busy. You can always find time for what’s important to you.

4. Decide How Badly You Want It

If you want to lose weight but you say you have no time, think about the men and women who wake up at 5 AM to go to the gym before work. Can that be you? I think so! Are you ready to devote your weekends to making your dreams come true? Successful authors who have a full time job spend their Saturday’s and Sunday’s writing their book. That can be you too. Whatever your goal is, you can make it come true.

5. Change Your Mindset

When you get into the mindset that you can do anything you want, positive things will happen. Your mind is very powerful. Tell yourself that you deserve greatness, and then make that happen!

Want The Person Who Wants You!

Life is short. Romance, passion, success, and love are needed to make life fulfilling and great. Just like significant ingredients are needed to make life amazing, the same is true for a relationship. A relationship needs both people to love, cherish, respect, and care about each other equally.

Many people date someone who doesn’t really want them. Their partner doesn’t give them everything that they need. How do you know if you’re dating a man or a woman who really wants you? Well, that’s simple. You should be able to immediately answer YES to all of these questions.

  1. Compliments Are Key

Does the person you’re dating compliment you? Does he tell you that you’re beautiful? Does she tell you that you’re handsome? When you’re dating someone who wants you, they should flatter you often.

  1. I Feel So Good

Does he make you feel good about yourself? When you’ve had a bad day, does she still make you feel great? Does he empower you to feel like you can do anything? Does she tell you that you’re awesome? When you’re involved with someone, they’re supposed to make you feel fantastic – ALL the time!

  1. Intelligence is Sexy

In a strong relationship, your partner is supposed to make you feel wonderful. Does she tell you that you’re smart? Does he think that you’re intelligent? The person you’re dating is supposed to bring you up.

  1. Be Supportive

Does he emotionally support you? Does she mentally encourage you? When you care about someone, you want them to succeed and be happy doing whatever they love. You don’t have to share each other’s passions, but you should want to stand beside them as they pursue their goals.

  1. Some Encouragement, Please

Does he make you want to be a better person? Does she encourage you to be the best version of yourself? The person you’re with should inspire you to be extra fabulous.

  1. Let’s Get Busy

Do you want each other? A relationship is supposed to be pleasurable – literally. Does your partner want to pleasure you? To keep it G rated, answer these questions. Does he want to kiss you often? Does she want to make out with you whenever she can? Plain and simple, your partner should want to sexually satisfy you.

  1. I’m Special

Does he make you feel special? Does she make you feel lucky? When you’re happy with someone, you feel like you’re on top of the world. You feel fortunate because you’re dating someone incredible. The person you’re seeing should feel that way too.

  1. Be Caring

Does he surprise you with your favorite dessert? Does she ever bring home your meal of choice just because? The man you’re dating should show you that he cares about you by being thoughtful. The woman you’re seeing should make your day better by doing small things to show you how much she adores you.

  1. A Little Romance

Romance is needed to keep a relationship alive. If you like flowers, does he ever bring them home for you? If you hate a certain chore, does she ever do it for you? Does he leave you a note saying how he can’t wait to see you later? Does she ever send you a love text? Being romantic is a simple way to increase your love connection.

The man or woman you’re seeing should make you feel like a King or a Queen. I hear too many stories of people who aren’t happy in a relationship –  they’re just comfortable. They’re afraid of going back to the dating pool so they stay with someone out of fear. Don’t let that be you. Whether you’ve been with someone for 5 months, or 5 years, you deserve the best. You should be with someone who wants you.

Bring On The Positivity

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Positive mind. Positive vibes. Positive life. How wonderful does that sound!? And, it’s not difficult to achieve. Here are 4 tips to help you increase the positivity in your life.

1. Smile

Smiling is really important. If you walk around NYC, you’d be surprised how many people don’t smile. Too many people have a permanent frown on and that isn’t cool. You want to be happy, right? So start by looking it.

2.  Do Something Nice For Someone Else

Kindness is contagious. So is karma. Try something new and indulge in a random act of kindness. If you do something nice for someone else, it makes your day better, and theirs. The person you’re being nice to is (hopefully!) likely to continue the kindness.  On Friday’s, I’m a fan of buying coffee for the person behind me in line at Starbucks. They’re usually so surprised and excited that their day automatically starts off with positive vibes.

3. Think Nice Thoughts 

Make an effort to only think nice thoughts. When you focus on the good things in your life, you’re setting yourself up for success. Think about what you love most about yourself. What’s the most exciting thing happening in your personal life? What would your friends say is your best quality? What do people like most about working with you?  Increase the positivity in your life by realizing how great you are and portraying it to those around you.

4. Surround Yourself With Optimism 

Look at who your friends are. Are they supportive? Are your friends good people? Do they encourage you to better yourself? When you surround yourself with people who enhance your life, it’s easy to be an optimist.

 

Top 10 Places to Meet Women

You should be meeting women everywhere. Yes, I know that’s very general. But, there are more women than men in most cities, so women are literally all over the place. If the idea of “everywhere” is too broad for you, here are the top 10 places that are great to meet women.

1. Try A New Restaurant

Busy, single women don’t always like to cook for themselves. They think it’s too much of a hassle to cook for one person. This is why they need a boyfriend – so they can have someone to cook for! Just kidding. However, when they’re tired and hungry after work, single women are likely to dine out at a restaurant – either alone or with a girlfriend. So if you want to meet a new lady, try a different restaurant at least once a week.

2. Get Sweaty

It’s a fact that women like to workout. They want to look and feel great, so they frequent gyms and exercise studios. If you meet a woman at the gym, you can see what she really looks like when she’s all sweaty and sans makeup. If she looks good in exercise clothes, imagine how great she’ll look all dolled up. People who work out are usually much happier and more fun to be around.

3. Bring On The Vino

Wine tasting events are awesome opportunities to meet women because they’re something that women can attend alone. Not all women have a plethora of girlfriends to go out with, which limits their extra curricular activities. Women are eager to experience new things. Most women also appreciate a good glass of wine. You can kill two birds with one stone – meet a woman and learn something new about wine.

4. Take Your Dog For A Walk

If you’ve walked by a dog park before, you’ve probably noticed that it was filled with droves of women. A dog park is a place to take advantage of – especially while it’s still sort of nice out. You can tell your dog to start playing with her dog, and the rest is history. If you own a dog, try out a new dog park every so often.

5. Join A Meet-Up Group

Women who are active and enjoy being out and about join meet-up groups. Meet-up groups have events for virtually every kind of person and hobby. Depending on what activities you love, you can pursue all of them.

6. Start Cooking

Women who want to better their kitchen skills take cooking classes. A cooking class enables a woman to explore her culinary skills and have fun in a relaxed, non-pressuring setting. Go to a cooking class and you’re almost guaranteed to be the only man.

7. Go Au Natural

Hands down, Whole Foods is the best grocery store to meet women in. For some reason, it caters to a beautiful crowd. It’s unlike Trader Joes or Fairway. If you spend 5 minutes walking around, you’ll see tons of pretty, fit women. Head to Whole Foods, even if you don’t like food shopping!

8. Pick Up a Sport


Do you like tennis or running? Well, start to love them both! Tennis clubs and running groups are filled with active women. Joining a tennis or running club is like a trifecta; you can see women in cute workout attire, better your sport, and get in great shape.

9. Namaste

Yes, I know, yoga isn’t for everyone. Most men think it’s very feminine and too calm for them. But, it’s a fabulous way to meet women. The majority of women who practice yoga are naturally pretty and in shape. It’s a bold statement to make, so go to a yoga studio and see for yourself.

10. Brush up On Your Culture

Experience a typical New York moment by going to a museum or art gallery. There are always new exhibits to view. If you’re meeting a woman at a museum, chances are she’s interesting, cultured, and can teach you something. I mean, how sexy is intelligence!?

Do you have any more places to add to the list?

 

 

The Top 10 Places To Meet A Man

Meeting the opposite sex isn’t the easiest feat, especially when you work in a femme-heavy industry. So, here are 10 tips to help you cross paths with Mr. Right.

1. Eat Out

Busy, single men don’t have time to cook. This is why they need a girlfriend! Just kidding. However, when they’re tired and hungry after work, they dine out at restaurants, and usually at the bar. If you want to meet a man, try a new restaurant at least once a week.

2. Join a Gym

Gyms are places where all body conscious men go to let off some steam. If you meet a man at the gym, you can see what he really looks like when he’s all sweaty. If he looks good in gym clothes, he’ll look great in real clothes. People who work out are also much happier and more enjoyable to be around. (Translation: they’re a better partner to be with).

3. Pay Attention To Your Pet

The sun is out (for now!) and love is in the air.  Take advantage of the warm weather we’ve been experiencing.  Give your dog some extra attention and go to the park. If you don’t have a dog, ask a friend if you can borrow theirs or join them and their furry friend at the park. Many men think of dogs as soul mates (who else better understands their zest for the simple things in life?) and will often frequent dog runs. If a man sees a cute woman walking a dog, he will most likely start a conversation with her.

4. Fix Things

To me, Home Depot is the worst place in the world.  I would rather sit in an icebox and freeze than go to an oversized tool shed. But, guys consider it their inner handyman Mecca. Men love fixing and building things, so Home Depot (or Lowes) stores are always filled with an array of manly men.

5. Start To Love Toys

Men love toys. The bigger the boat and the faster the engine, the more powerful the guy will usually be. The same way women love fashion shows, guys love toy shows. Car and boat shows are places where single men are like a flock to a shepherd. If you attend a car or boat show, pick up on the finer things in life (um, Ferraris anyone?), while meeting a man to drive it.

6. Wash Your Car

Speaking of cars, most men love their four-wheelers and they like them to appear brand new. I’ve spent a significant amount of time at car washes (thanks to always dating men who are car lovers) and I’ve noticed that they were usually filled with men. Head to a car wash and remember that your car can never be too shiny.

7. Be Tech-Friendly

True or false? Men are into electronics. Men love technology and are always looking for new phones and exciting gadgets. If you want to meet a tech-friendly type of guy, frequent a Verizon, Sprint, Apple, or AT&T store.

8. Pick Up a Sport


Do you like tennis or golf? Well, start to love them both! Being active will boost your confidence and help you stay fit. Golf courses and tennis clubs are places that men go to with their friends. If you join one, you can better your game, stay active, and meet new people.

9. Start Reading

Reading is a great way to escape your day-to-day troubles. Go to a bookstore and kill two birds with one stone. You can find a book and a brand new man. Some men love to learn and are always looking for reading material. If you’re browsing the same aisle, you know you have something in common.

10. Get Cultured


Experience a typical New York moment by going to a museum. Depending on what type of art you enjoy, there are various different types of exhibits you can view. If you meet a man at a museum, chances are he’s interesting and cultured. You can also brush up on some art history while looking for that prospective boyfriend or husband.

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Don’t Call Men Back

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked but you never heard from her after the date? Did you ever text a woman to schedule another date and she didn’t reply? Here are 10 reasons why you might have asked a woman out again and she wasn’t interested.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. We can think you have all the qualities of someone we want to date, but we just didn’t feel a connection. You didn’t do anything wrong, we just weren’t feeling it. If the connection wasn’t there, chances are we won’t be too excited to go out with you again.

2. You’re Needy

Women like attention. We adore it when you make us feel special. However, that doesn’t mean we want you to text us so often that we have to create a customized text tone for you. Check in with us, but don’t text us all day. If you act needy, we won’t be too eager to see you again.

3. She Met Someone Else

When we went out with you, we thought you were pretty great. We had a nice time and hoped you would ask us out again. And then… we met someone else the next night that we liked better. Even though we had a good date with you, the next guy was our favorite. Don’t take it personally, we didn’t mean to forget about you.

5. You Bored Us

Women value personality more than looks. We want to date someone who’s really, really awesome. When we’re on a date, we want you to be the talker. We don’t want to lead the conversation and have to ask all of the questions. If you were shy and a little quiet, we might not have been so into you. We want to date someone charismatic who tries to get to know us.

6. No Future Here

Often, we go on a date and we had a nice time, but we just didn’t see a future with you. We have an idea of the type of man we want to take home to mom and dad. You could be a total catch, but if we didn’t see ourselves planning our wedding on pinterest with you as the groom, we’re not likely to go out with you again.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times we might go out with a man and have a terrific time, but we just weren’t sexually attracted to him. We enjoyed talking to him but we didn’t imagine ourselves being intimate with him. We put him in the friend zone from the moment he said hello. If there was no sexual chemistry, the possibility of another date are slim to none.

8. You’re Not Ready

Not everyone is ready for a relationship. A man can say he is, but deep down, he’s not done playing the field. As mature, strong individuals, we’ve dated enough to know that going out with someone who isn’t ready is a waste of our time (and yours!). If you’re not relationship ready, no hard feelings, we just don’t want to be pursued by you.

9. You’re Not Really Available

Some men don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. They talk about how they work 24/7 and have client dinners almost every night. We want to date someone who’s able to make us a priority. If you come off as too busy, the chances of a second date aren’t so good. Life is too short to be seeing someone who can’t give us 100 percent.

10. You’re Friend-less

Women want to date a man who has a life. We don’t want you to always rely on us for social plans. We expect you to have a few friends. We want to know that if we’re busy one night, you’re not going to be sitting at home on your couch making us feel guilty for being out. If you have no friends, we’re definitely going to wonder why. Sadly, if you’re friend-less, we won’t be so inclined to see you again.

Top Reasons Why Men Don’t Call Women Back

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked but you didn’t hear from him after the first date? Did you ever text a man after a fantastic evening out and he didn’t reply?

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that men and women are very different. Men, unlike women, are logical. They don’t spend hours obsessing over everything they do. Men are simple – they either like us or they don’t. Here are 9 reasons why you might have had an amazing date but you never heard from the guy again.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. A man can think you’re gorgeous, smart, well-dressed, very sweet, and awesome, but he just didn’t feel any chemistry. If the connection wasn’t there, he won’t be asking you out again.

2. Rudeness

Sometimes women act rudely on a date. They forget to treat everyone with kindness. They aren’t friendly to doormen, waiters, busboys, or taxi drivers. There’s never a reason to be anything but nice to everyone you meet. Being bitchy or obnoxious isn’t cool. If you’re disrespectful to anyone, your date isn’t going to want to see you again.

3. Lateness Isn’t Tolerated

Arriving fashionably late is a huge faux pas. Making someone wait shows a lack of respect for the person you’re meeting. It makes people think you’re inconsiderate. If you’re late to a date, it can easily put things in a sour mood from the get-go and ruin your chances of getting a follow up phone call.

4. He Met Someone Else

Your date could have thought you were wonderful. He might have had a great time and was planning on asking you out again. And then… he met someone else the next night that he liked better. He chose to pursue her, instead of you, even though he thought you had a really, really good date. It happens all the time. Don’t take it personally, he wasn’t for you!

5. You Hurt His Feelings

Men generally aren’t as sensitive as women, but they do get offended. It’s important to always be nice. Kindness is contagious. I certainly wouldn’t want to go on another date with someone who hurt my feelings. Insulting someone isn’t nice. If you say something that your date thinks is rude, don’t expect him to call you.

6. No Future Here

Often, you go on a date and both of you had a nice time. But, for him, something was off. He could have thought you’re extraordinary, but he just didn’t see a future with you. Some men, (not all!), have an idea about what type of woman they want to marry and take home to meet their family. You could be a total catch, but he just didn’t think you fit into his life long-term.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times you might go out with someone and he had a terrific time, but he wasn’t sexually attracted to you. He enjoyed talking to you but he didn’t imagine himself being intimate with you. He put you in the friend zone from the moment you met.

8. Intellectual Curiosity

Being intellectually stimulating is essential. Men want to date a woman that they can learn from. They’re attracted to women who are curious and challenging. As an example, if he likes talking about football and politics, and you enjoy conversing about shopping and cooking, he most likely won’t want to go out with you again. Don’t be discouraged, there’s someone out there who has the same interests as you.

9. You’re Not Available

Not everyone is emotionally available. Some women don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. Often, they talk about their job 24/7 or they mention all of the things that they have going on in their life. To men, that isn’t a good thing. Men want to date someone who’s independent and has a life, but is able to make them a priority. If you come off as too busy, the chances of a second date are slim.

Now that you know the main reasons why men don’t call women back, accept it and move on. Don’t over analyze everything and get upset. Realize that you’re fabulous. If you went out with someone you liked and he didn’t get in touch with you again, move on. Know that you deserve better. There are plenty of remarkable guys out there who will want to go out with you again and will be very excited about it!

9 Mistakes Women Make In Bed

More often than not, your bedroom routine can use a little spicing up. You love your man and expect him to initiate sex, right? Wrong! A relationship takes work. Sex, believe it or not, is part of that work. So, study up so when it comes to sex, you can be mistake-free.

Mistake #1: Sweats and/or Pajamas

Comfy clothes are the best, I know. After a long day at the office, all you want to do is change out of your work attire and put on your sweats or jammies. But, comfy clothes aren’t a turn on to your man. Men constantly complain that once women are in a relationship (or married) they stop trying. The sexy lingerie disappears and is replaced with cozy attire. So, if you want to make things more exciting, shed those comfy clothes and wear something that’s a turn on to your partner.

Mistake #2: NOT Being The Initiator

Plain and simple, men love when women initiate sex. Men need to feel wanted. The best way to show your man that you want him is to initiate sex. So, get involved! Take the lead and get your partner into bed with you.

Mistake #3: Giving Too Many Orders

Sex isn’t a time to be bossy and controlling. Men don’t like hearing a detailed list of instructions. You should 100% tell your partner what you like. But, keep in mind he wants to pleasure you, not feel like he’s back in school. Be positive; he wants to hear what he can do to please you and how it will excite you.

Mistake #4: Not Being Confident

Confidence is sexy. Men like women to be sure of themselves – all of the time. Being proud of your body, especially when you’re naked, is one of the sexiest things you can do. Don’t hide your curves or that extra imperfection you think you have. Embrace your body.

Mistake #5: Don’t Expect Him to Do Everything

Sex is an activity that involves two people. You have to be present. Don’t expect him to do everything. You want your man to feel like you’re taking an active role in his pleasure.

Mistake # 6: Worrying About What You Look Like

Wanting to turn the lights off or trying to keep your clothes on during sex shows your man that you’re insecure. Remember, confidence is sexy. When you leave anything on, you’re showing your man that you have something to hide. Unless you’re wearing lingerie with a garter belt and thigh highs, lose whatever you have on. Be involved in the moment. Worrying about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself.

Mistake #7: Don’t Expect Him To Read Your Mind

Men aren’t mind readers. They don’t always know what you want or what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Communication is key, even in sex!

Mistake #8: Faking It

If you’re faking it, you’re the one who’s losing out! Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and filled with orgasms. If your man isn’t “getting you there,” tell him! Show him what you like and give him a chance to pleasure you. You’re wasting your time and his if you don’t give him a chance to make you feel great.

Mistake #9: Losing your sexuality

Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s easy not to make your sex life a priority. Perhaps you’re too tired, you’re caught up with being a new mother, or you’re critical of the newfound weight that you just noticed appeared on your thighs. You have to remember to pay attention to yourself and your partner. If you put your man or your relationship on a back burner, one day it will burn up.

Ladies, it’s time to remember that every woman should have an inner sexual goddess. Find yours and go have some fun!

 

10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Being good in bed is really, really important. Here are 10 sex mistakes men make VERY often. Read on to make sure you’re not doing any of them!

1.      Don’t Jip Us, Please

Women love foreplay. We adore being kissed and explored. We consider foreplay an essential part of sex. When we don’t indulge in foreplay, we feel like we’re being jipped. Skipping foreplay makes sex feel rushed. Yes, there are times when sex is so passionate that foreplay is absolutely unthinkable. And then, it’s totally awesome. But when foreplay is regularly omitted, we’re not happy. Spend time kissing and caressing us, please.

2.      No Guarantees

Sex is a two way street. Just because you were satisfied, you can’t assume that we were too. Unless you made an effort to make it pleasurable for us, it may not have been. Keep in mind that not all women can have an orgasm on their own. Some women need a little extra assistance from you. Don’t think that we had an orgasm, unless you tried to make it happen.

3.      Refrain From Being Boring

Women have fantasies! We thrive on emotions. We’ve read 50 Shades of Gray and we liked it. We gossip about sex just as much as you do, if not more. So, explore our fantasies. Ask us what we like and we’ve always wanted to try.

4.      Don’t Forget To Trim!

Manscaping is important to us. It’s almost necessary to us as us shaving our legs is to you. In case you’re not tuned in to this new term, manscaping is defined as the removal or trimming of your hair “down there.” When you manscape, you’re making us happy.  So, please do it!

5.      Repetition Not Allowed

Sex should never be predictable. Women don’t ever want to have sex in the exact same position every time. We like sex to be the opposite of routine. We want it to be sensual and exciting. Remember how you couldn’t keep your hands off of us in the beginning of the relationship? Well, we want you to always feel that way.

6.      Be Oral

Going “downtown” is an absolute necessity. Plain and simple, no explanation needed. It should be something you do very frequently because you know we love it.

7.      Actress of The Year

It’s your job to know your partner’s body. You have to be aware of her likes and dislikes. You want to make sex as enjoyable as possible, for her (and you!). As a talented lover, you’re supposed to know if she’s faking it.

8.       Don’t Rush It

Coffee lines, doctor’s visits, and DMV appointments are all things that should be VERY quick. Sex, on the other hand, shouldn’t be. Some men have trouble lasting long enough for their partner to enjoy herself. Let’s hope you’re not one of those! You can’t put an estimated time on how long sex should be. There’s no universal average, because all women have different preferences. But it should be long enough to be pleasurable for both of you.

9.      Be The Man

Most of the time during sex, women want men to be in control. We want you to demonstrate to us that you’re our man. We like being flipped around and pushed up against walls. Be dominant and show off your manliness!

10.  Stay With Me

After sex, most women are filled with a lot of emotions. Our bodies have just released oxytocin, which causes us to be a little needier than usual. It’s our hormones fault, not ours! As a result, we like to relax for a few minutes after sex, and sometimes even cuddle. When you’re in a rush to go somewhere, you’re hurting our feelings. Stay and give us a few minutes of extra love.

10 Habits Of Happy Couples

Most people think a happy relationship should happen naturally when you’re with the right person. That’s not true. Relationships require work and a lot of effort. The best relationships are those that are filled with honesty and communication. Here are 10 things you can do to make sure you’re a great couple.

1. Get Into Bed At The Same Time

Remember when you first started dating and you couldn’t wait to “go to bed” and sleep next to each other? Well that’s necessary to maintain. When you go to bed together, you’re making sure you’re on the same page.  Whether you choose to have sex, or just cuddle, going to bed together shows that you’re putting in effort to make sure you’re connecting.

2. Find Common Interests

It’s important to enjoy doing things together as a couple. You don’t need to share all hobbies but you should have activities that just the two of you can do. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you’re having fun doing it together.

3. Hold Hands

Holding hands increases the closeness, which is always needed. It’s a simple act that makes you feel loved and connected to each other. When you’ve been together for many years, it’s easy for the intimacy to fade. When you hold hands as you walk down the street, you’re showing each other that you still care.

4. Focus On The Positive

Happy couples accentuate the positive things their partner does. They don’t nit-pick or criticize. It’s crucial to ensure that you’re complementary and supportive. You want to make your partner feel good.

5. Kiss Each Other And Say “I Love You”

Before you leave for work in the morning, give your partner a really great goodbye kiss and say “I Love You.” When you come home from a long day, do the same thing. Your morning and evening greeting should be something that you look forward to. Once you start kissing and sharing your feelings often, you’ll appreciate each other more. People forget that the small things make a difference. When you begin your day with something positive, you’re starting on a good note.

6. Don’t Forget Each Other

In the crazy hectic world we live in, it’s easy to get caught up and become too busy for each other. Remember how excited you were to see each other when you first started dating? Well, nothing is stopping you from feeling that way all the time. Do little things to make each other happy. Be thankful that you have someone you love who loves you back. Look at your partner and be grateful that you’re together.

7. Plan “Date Night”

Having a date night is essential. Just like when you first started seeing each other, one of you should plan the entire night. Date night encourages you to do something to better your relationship. As silly as it sounds, getting dressed up and going out, just the two of you, keeps the romance strong. When you work on keeping the spark alive, you’re making an effort to be happy.

8. Be Best Friends

Being friends with your significant other takes work. When you’ve been together for what feels like an eternity, it’s easy to shut each other out. Communicating is essential. You have to make sure that you find time to listen to each other and share your feelings.

9. Break The Expected Routine 

Your relationship shouldn’t feel like a routine. Do you call each other at the same time every day? Does every night consist of the same activity? If so, switch it up. Your life as a couple shouldn’t become predictable. You don’t want anything to ever feel like it’s scheduled. You should embrace spontaneity and surprise each other with fun things to do.

10. Focus On Each Other

When you spend time together, really be together. Put your phones away and focus on each other. If you’re spending the night in, light some candles. Make your home feel like a home. Set the mood so you feel relaxed and carefree. If you’re at a restaurant, make eye contact and enjoy each other’s company. Be present so your time together is valuable.