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The Importance of Sex in a Relationship

Sex. It’s a topic that men and women love talking about. It’s something that everyone thinks about – even when they’re not sexually active. And, guess what, it’s very important in a relationship. In fact, it’s just as imperative as trust and communication.

Sex is something that’s different for men and women. It’s a universal form of pleasure and a way to de-stress. It also gives you a level of closeness with your significant other. Here are 7 reasons why sex is important in a relationship.

Passion, Passion, Passion

The best relationship you can have is with someone who’s your best friend and your lover. If you’re in a relationship that’s become sex-less, you might as well be dating just a friend. Yes, it’s that simple.

Relationships need passion. They need excitement and sexiness. Having sex with your partner keeps the spark alive. It makes the relationship desirable, stimulating, and fun.

Stress-Free

Having sex helps relieves stress. It releases endorphins and other hormones that make you feel good. When you’re stress free and feel great, you function better.

Keeping the Connection Alive

Sex is something simple you can do to make yourself (and your partner!) very happy. It promotes intimacy, reassurance, and shows you both that you’re wanted and needed. It tells your partner that you can still make time for each other.

Sex a form of communication. It’s a way of assuring your significant other that the love is still there and everything is okay, regardless of how intense life becomes.

Sleep Tight

Sex helps you sleep better. It’s not just the fabulous romp session that makes you sleep like a baby. After sex, a chemical called oxytocin is released, which helps you sleep soundly.

It Makes You Happy

People who have sex very often are generally happier than those who don’t. Having sex puts an extra pep in your step. It also boots your self-confidence and gives you a better positive attitude about yourself.

It Keeps Your Partner Happy

When men are stressed, sex makes them feel better. It makes them feel wanted and needed. Plain and simple, having sex makes a man feel good about himself. If you’re in a sex-less relationship, your partner isn’t 100% satisfied. It’s a no-brainer that if he isn’t happy with your sex life, he’s going to start looking for sex from someone else.

Sex is the glue that’s needed in a relationship. It re-connects you and puts you in tune with your partner. Sex keeps your relationship alive.

9 Mistakes Women Make In Bed

More often than not, your bedroom routine can use a little spicing up. You love your man and expect him to initiate sex, right? Wrong! A relationship takes work. Sex, believe it or not, is part of that work. So, study up so when it comes to sex, you can be mistake-free.

Mistake #1: Sweats and/or Pajamas

Comfy clothes are the best, I know. After a long day at the office, all you want to do is change out of your work attire and put on your sweats or jammies. But, comfy clothes aren’t a turn on to your man. Men constantly complain that once women are in a relationship (or married) they stop trying. The sexy lingerie disappears and is replaced with cozy attire. So, if you want to make things more exciting, shed those comfy clothes and wear something that’s a turn on to your partner.

Mistake #2: NOT Being The Initiator

Plain and simple, men love when women initiate sex. Men need to feel wanted. The best way to show your man that you want him is to initiate sex. So, get involved! Take the lead and get your partner into bed with you.

Mistake #3: Giving Too Many Orders

Sex isn’t a time to be bossy and controlling. Men don’t like hearing a detailed list of instructions. You should 100% tell your partner what you like. But, keep in mind he wants to pleasure you, not feel like he’s back in school. Be positive; he wants to hear what he can do to please you and how it will excite you.

Mistake #4: Not Being Confident

Confidence is sexy. Men like women to be sure of themselves – all of the time. Being proud of your body, especially when you’re naked, is one of the sexiest things you can do. Don’t hide your curves or that extra imperfection you think you have. Embrace your body.

Mistake #5: Don’t Expect Him to Do Everything

Sex is an activity that involves two people. You have to be present. Don’t expect him to do everything. You want your man to feel like you’re taking an active role in his pleasure.

Mistake # 6: Worrying About What You Look Like

Wanting to turn the lights off or trying to keep your clothes on during sex shows your man that you’re insecure. Remember, confidence is sexy. When you leave anything on, you’re showing your man that you have something to hide. Unless you’re wearing lingerie with a garter belt and thigh highs, lose whatever you have on. Be involved in the moment. Worrying about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself.

Mistake #7: Don’t Expect Him To Read Your Mind

Men aren’t mind readers. They don’t always know what you want or what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Communication is key, even in sex!

Mistake #8: Faking It

If you’re faking it, you’re the one who’s losing out! Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and filled with orgasms. If your man isn’t “getting you there,” tell him! Show him what you like and give him a chance to pleasure you. You’re wasting your time and his if you don’t give him a chance to make you feel great.

Mistake #9: Losing your sexuality

Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s easy not to make your sex life a priority. Perhaps you’re too tired, you’re caught up with being a new mother, or you’re critical of the newfound weight that you just noticed appeared on your thighs. You have to remember to pay attention to yourself and your partner. If you put your man or your relationship on a back burner, one day it will burn up.

Ladies, it’s time to remember that every woman should have an inner sexual goddess. Find yours and go have some fun!

 

10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Being good in bed is really, really important. Here are 10 sex mistakes men make VERY often. Read on to make sure you’re not doing any of them!

1.      Don’t Jip Us, Please

Women love foreplay. We adore being kissed and explored. We consider foreplay an essential part of sex. When we don’t indulge in foreplay, we feel like we’re being jipped. Skipping foreplay makes sex feel rushed. Yes, there are times when sex is so passionate that foreplay is absolutely unthinkable. And then, it’s totally awesome. But when foreplay is regularly omitted, we’re not happy. Spend time kissing and caressing us, please.

2.      No Guarantees

Sex is a two way street. Just because you were satisfied, you can’t assume that we were too. Unless you made an effort to make it pleasurable for us, it may not have been. Keep in mind that not all women can have an orgasm on their own. Some women need a little extra assistance from you. Don’t think that we had an orgasm, unless you tried to make it happen.

3.      Refrain From Being Boring

Women have fantasies! We thrive on emotions. We’ve read 50 Shades of Gray and we liked it. We gossip about sex just as much as you do, if not more. So, explore our fantasies. Ask us what we like and we’ve always wanted to try.

4.      Don’t Forget To Trim!

Manscaping is important to us. It’s almost necessary to us as us shaving our legs is to you. In case you’re not tuned in to this new term, manscaping is defined as the removal or trimming of your hair “down there.” When you manscape, you’re making us happy.  So, please do it!

5.      Repetition Not Allowed

Sex should never be predictable. Women don’t ever want to have sex in the exact same position every time. We like sex to be the opposite of routine. We want it to be sensual and exciting. Remember how you couldn’t keep your hands off of us in the beginning of the relationship? Well, we want you to always feel that way.

6.      Be Oral

Going “downtown” is an absolute necessity. Plain and simple, no explanation needed. It should be something you do very frequently because you know we love it.

7.      Actress of The Year

It’s your job to know your partner’s body. You have to be aware of her likes and dislikes. You want to make sex as enjoyable as possible, for her (and you!). As a talented lover, you’re supposed to know if she’s faking it.

8.       Don’t Rush It

Coffee lines, doctor’s visits, and DMV appointments are all things that should be VERY quick. Sex, on the other hand, shouldn’t be. Some men have trouble lasting long enough for their partner to enjoy herself. Let’s hope you’re not one of those! You can’t put an estimated time on how long sex should be. There’s no universal average, because all women have different preferences. But it should be long enough to be pleasurable for both of you.

9.      Be The Man

Most of the time during sex, women want men to be in control. We want you to demonstrate to us that you’re our man. We like being flipped around and pushed up against walls. Be dominant and show off your manliness!

10.  Stay With Me

After sex, most women are filled with a lot of emotions. Our bodies have just released oxytocin, which causes us to be a little needier than usual. It’s our hormones fault, not ours! As a result, we like to relax for a few minutes after sex, and sometimes even cuddle. When you’re in a rush to go somewhere, you’re hurting our feelings. Stay and give us a few minutes of extra love.