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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

Date Someone Who Makes You Better

The person you date should enhance your life. He or she is supposed to make you smile more than you frown. They ought to make you feel great about yourself. They should fascinate you, amaze you, and of course, make you very, very happy. The person you date should make you better. Here are 14 dating tips to remind you what you should look for.

  1. Date someone who is passionate. Their zest for life should be intense and they should be exciting to be around. They need to make you feel intoxicated – in a wonderful way.
  2. Date someone who is curious about life. They must push their limits and yours! Pick a person who is stimulating – someone who has hobbies and interests. Let them encourage you to try new things and make you escape your comfort zone.
  3. Date someone who is captivating. When they walk into a room, all heads should turn because they’re so confident. They have a presence about them and that presence is impressive. Date someone who knows they’re incredible.
  4. Date a man or a woman who challenges you. Choose a person who can talk about anything, anywhere, anytime. Be with someone who emotionally satisfies you.
  5. Be with a partner who isn’t afraid to be unusual. Maybe she has a bit of an edge. Perhaps he is a little quirkier than you ordinarily like. His or her uniqueness is what makes them special.
  6. Date a man or a woman who is ambitious and has goals. They don’t need to have a 5-year plan, but they should have a list of things they want to accomplish. Someone who is goal oriented and eager to succeed is a good influence to be around.
  7. Date someone who believes in living life to the fullest. They’re happy taking advantage of all life’s simple pleasures. Fall in love with a person who has a natural love for life. They’re fun to be with because they enjoy any activity.
  8. Laughter is the best medicine. Choose a partner who cracks you up. They don’t have to be funny to everyone – just to you. They have the ability to make you literally LOL.
  9. Spend time with someone who can be your best friend. You should be able to talk to them about anything. They should provide you with advice when needed, and understand you in a way that no one else does. You can spend all day talking to them and never run out of things to say.
  10. Date someone who is drama free. Your relationship shouldn’t be an emotional rollercoaster. They’re dependable and you know you can count on them. They bring honesty into your life and they don’t “yes” you when you ask for the truth.
  11. Date someone who inspires you to have a “can do” attitude. When you’re with them, you find yourself trying things you would normally hate. Choose a partner who pushes you; someone who introduces you to things you’ve never thought you’d enjoy.
  12. Date someone who you find irresistible and really, really sexy. You can’t wait to be alone with them, and that feeling never gets old.
  13. Date someone who thinks you’re extraordinary. They compliment you often and make you feel like you’re the luckiest person in the world. They’re always your biggest cheerleader.
  14. Fall in love with someone who exhilarates you and makes you be the best version of yourself. Life should be better with them and they should be proud to have you in their life.

Make The Rest Of Your Life The Best Of Your Life!

unnamed-1You control your life.  You have the power to make it as amazing as you want it to be.  Here are 9 tips to help make your life super awesome.

1. Do Things That You Love

Take a moment to identify what makes you happy. It can be anything you like. I like to start my day off each morning with a hint of positivity. I listen to (and of course sing!) my favorite song. It’s simple, I know, but it puts a smile on my face. So it’s become a silly daily morning routine.

Whatever you love, do it as often as you can. You should feel like you’re on cloud nine at least once every day.

2. Get Focused

Focus on the now. When you’re in the moment, be present. Don’t think about the past or the future. Live what’s happening at the exact moment in time.

3. Create A Bucket List

Make a list of everything you want to do. Do you want to go to Bali and visit a Buddhist monastery? Is hiking the Grand Canyon on your wish list? Do you want to play hooky from work one day? Is it a goal of yours to visit every museum in your city? Write down everything, and anything, you want to do, and make an effort to make it happen. Experience as many things as you can.

4. Live For Yourself

Live for yourself. If you want to take a break from dating, go ahead. If you’re craving a slice of pizza, but you know it’s bad for you, eat it anyway. Perhaps you want to spend a whole day reading in bed. Go for it, and enjoy it. Do things because you want to, not because someone tells you to or you think you have to.

5. Stop Complaining

Complaining doesn’t get you anywhere. It makes you annoying and prevents you from attaining your ambitions. If you’re not happy with something in your life, change it. You have the power to do anything you want. So, what are you waiting for?

6. Like Your Job

Do work that you truly love. Not everyone gets to be a pro-athlete or travel the world and write about it on someone else’s tab, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy what you do. If you’re passionate about what you do, it’s not a job. You should have a career that you’re excited about. Life is too short to dread Monday mornings.

7. Be An Optimist

Be positive. Choose to be optimistic and have a sunny outlook on life. Don’t worry about the things that you can’t control. Focus on what you’re grateful for and what brings you joy.

8. Surround Yourself With Greatness

The people you surround yourself with have a big impact on your attitude. When you’re around happy, relaxed, vivacious people, it’s easy to have a positive outlook on everything. You should spend time with people who make you laugh, put a smile on your face, and of course, enhance your life.

9. Take Advantage

Take advantage of what your city has to offer. There are an array of things you can be doing at any given moment that are really, really awesome. Go to a wine tasting. Take a cooking class. Attend a cake making workshop. Sign up for an art class. Go on a yoga retreat. Spend the day in a bookstore.  Go see a play.  Listen to the opera. Experience a concert. Book a scavenger hunt. You get the point – do unique things that add greatness to your life.

Your life should be filled with joy. On any given day, you should be able to reflect on how fabulous your life is!

The Importance of Sex in a Relationship

Sex. It’s a topic that men and women love talking about. It’s something that everyone thinks about – even when they’re not sexually active. And, guess what, it’s very important in a relationship. In fact, it’s just as imperative as trust and communication.

Sex is something that’s different for men and women. It’s a universal form of pleasure and a way to de-stress. It also gives you a level of closeness with your significant other. Here are 7 reasons why sex is important in a relationship.

Passion, Passion, Passion

The best relationship you can have is with someone who’s your best friend and your lover. If you’re in a relationship that’s become sex-less, you might as well be dating just a friend. Yes, it’s that simple.

Relationships need passion. They need excitement and sexiness. Having sex with your partner keeps the spark alive. It makes the relationship desirable, stimulating, and fun.

Stress-Free

Having sex helps relieves stress. It releases endorphins and other hormones that make you feel good. When you’re stress free and feel great, you function better.

Keeping the Connection Alive

Sex is something simple you can do to make yourself (and your partner!) very happy. It promotes intimacy, reassurance, and shows you both that you’re wanted and needed. It tells your partner that you can still make time for each other.

Sex a form of communication. It’s a way of assuring your significant other that the love is still there and everything is okay, regardless of how intense life becomes.

Sleep Tight

Sex helps you sleep better. It’s not just the fabulous romp session that makes you sleep like a baby. After sex, a chemical called oxytocin is released, which helps you sleep soundly.

It Makes You Happy

People who have sex very often are generally happier than those who don’t. Having sex puts an extra pep in your step. It also boots your self-confidence and gives you a better positive attitude about yourself.

It Keeps Your Partner Happy

When men are stressed, sex makes them feel better. It makes them feel wanted and needed. Plain and simple, having sex makes a man feel good about himself. If you’re in a sex-less relationship, your partner isn’t 100% satisfied. It’s a no-brainer that if he isn’t happy with your sex life, he’s going to start looking for sex from someone else.

Sex is the glue that’s needed in a relationship. It re-connects you and puts you in tune with your partner. Sex keeps your relationship alive.

Make A Change

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If you’re looking for someone to change your life, you’re in luck. That person is YOU! As I mentioned in an earlier post today, life is short. It’s up to you to make your life as great as you want it to be. Here are 5 steps to help you make a positive change in your life.

1. Identify What You Want

Figure out what you want from life. Do you want to write a memoir? Then write it. Sit down and map out exactly how you’re going to make that happen. Are you tired of looking in the mirror and seeing a body that you’re not happy with? Then make a plan to change your body. Decide what steps you have to take to get the body of your dreams. You see where I’m going here. Whatever it is, identify what you want and strategize how to make it happen.

2. Empower Yourself

Take control of your life. Realize how powerful you are. If you don’t like something, recognize that you have the power to change it. Empower yourself to know that you can do absolutely anything you set your mind to.

3. Stop Making Excuses

Excuses are for people who don’t really want things. If you want to make something happen, you can. It’s that simple. There’s no such thing as being too busy. You can always find time for what’s important to you.

4. Decide How Badly You Want It

If you want to lose weight but you say you have no time, think about the men and women who wake up at 5 AM to go to the gym before work. Can that be you? I think so! Are you ready to devote your weekends to making your dreams come true? Successful authors who have a full time job spend their Saturday’s and Sunday’s writing their book. That can be you too. Whatever your goal is, you can make it come true.

5. Change Your Mindset

When you get into the mindset that you can do anything you want, positive things will happen. Your mind is very powerful. Tell yourself that you deserve greatness, and then make that happen!

Top 10 Places to Meet Women

You should be meeting women everywhere. Yes, I know that’s very general. But, there are more women than men in most cities, so women are literally all over the place. If the idea of “everywhere” is too broad for you, here are the top 10 places that are great to meet women.

1. Try A New Restaurant

Busy, single women don’t always like to cook for themselves. They think it’s too much of a hassle to cook for one person. This is why they need a boyfriend – so they can have someone to cook for! Just kidding. However, when they’re tired and hungry after work, single women are likely to dine out at a restaurant – either alone or with a girlfriend. So if you want to meet a new lady, try a different restaurant at least once a week.

2. Get Sweaty

It’s a fact that women like to workout. They want to look and feel great, so they frequent gyms and exercise studios. If you meet a woman at the gym, you can see what she really looks like when she’s all sweaty and sans makeup. If she looks good in exercise clothes, imagine how great she’ll look all dolled up. People who work out are usually much happier and more fun to be around.

3. Bring On The Vino

Wine tasting events are awesome opportunities to meet women because they’re something that women can attend alone. Not all women have a plethora of girlfriends to go out with, which limits their extra curricular activities. Women are eager to experience new things. Most women also appreciate a good glass of wine. You can kill two birds with one stone – meet a woman and learn something new about wine.

4. Take Your Dog For A Walk

If you’ve walked by a dog park before, you’ve probably noticed that it was filled with droves of women. A dog park is a place to take advantage of – especially while it’s still sort of nice out. You can tell your dog to start playing with her dog, and the rest is history. If you own a dog, try out a new dog park every so often.

5. Join A Meet-Up Group

Women who are active and enjoy being out and about join meet-up groups. Meet-up groups have events for virtually every kind of person and hobby. Depending on what activities you love, you can pursue all of them.

6. Start Cooking

Women who want to better their kitchen skills take cooking classes. A cooking class enables a woman to explore her culinary skills and have fun in a relaxed, non-pressuring setting. Go to a cooking class and you’re almost guaranteed to be the only man.

7. Go Au Natural

Hands down, Whole Foods is the best grocery store to meet women in. For some reason, it caters to a beautiful crowd. It’s unlike Trader Joes or Fairway. If you spend 5 minutes walking around, you’ll see tons of pretty, fit women. Head to Whole Foods, even if you don’t like food shopping!

8. Pick Up a Sport


Do you like tennis or running? Well, start to love them both! Tennis clubs and running groups are filled with active women. Joining a tennis or running club is like a trifecta; you can see women in cute workout attire, better your sport, and get in great shape.

9. Namaste

Yes, I know, yoga isn’t for everyone. Most men think it’s very feminine and too calm for them. But, it’s a fabulous way to meet women. The majority of women who practice yoga are naturally pretty and in shape. It’s a bold statement to make, so go to a yoga studio and see for yourself.

10. Brush up On Your Culture

Experience a typical New York moment by going to a museum or art gallery. There are always new exhibits to view. If you’re meeting a woman at a museum, chances are she’s interesting, cultured, and can teach you something. I mean, how sexy is intelligence!?

Do you have any more places to add to the list?

 

 

The Top 10 Places To Meet A Man

Meeting the opposite sex isn’t the easiest feat, especially when you work in a femme-heavy industry. So, here are 10 tips to help you cross paths with Mr. Right.

1. Eat Out

Busy, single men don’t have time to cook. This is why they need a girlfriend! Just kidding. However, when they’re tired and hungry after work, they dine out at restaurants, and usually at the bar. If you want to meet a man, try a new restaurant at least once a week.

2. Join a Gym

Gyms are places where all body conscious men go to let off some steam. If you meet a man at the gym, you can see what he really looks like when he’s all sweaty. If he looks good in gym clothes, he’ll look great in real clothes. People who work out are also much happier and more enjoyable to be around. (Translation: they’re a better partner to be with).

3. Pay Attention To Your Pet

The sun is out (for now!) and love is in the air.  Take advantage of the warm weather we’ve been experiencing.  Give your dog some extra attention and go to the park. If you don’t have a dog, ask a friend if you can borrow theirs or join them and their furry friend at the park. Many men think of dogs as soul mates (who else better understands their zest for the simple things in life?) and will often frequent dog runs. If a man sees a cute woman walking a dog, he will most likely start a conversation with her.

4. Fix Things

To me, Home Depot is the worst place in the world.  I would rather sit in an icebox and freeze than go to an oversized tool shed. But, guys consider it their inner handyman Mecca. Men love fixing and building things, so Home Depot (or Lowes) stores are always filled with an array of manly men.

5. Start To Love Toys

Men love toys. The bigger the boat and the faster the engine, the more powerful the guy will usually be. The same way women love fashion shows, guys love toy shows. Car and boat shows are places where single men are like a flock to a shepherd. If you attend a car or boat show, pick up on the finer things in life (um, Ferraris anyone?), while meeting a man to drive it.

6. Wash Your Car

Speaking of cars, most men love their four-wheelers and they like them to appear brand new. I’ve spent a significant amount of time at car washes (thanks to always dating men who are car lovers) and I’ve noticed that they were usually filled with men. Head to a car wash and remember that your car can never be too shiny.

7. Be Tech-Friendly

True or false? Men are into electronics. Men love technology and are always looking for new phones and exciting gadgets. If you want to meet a tech-friendly type of guy, frequent a Verizon, Sprint, Apple, or AT&T store.

8. Pick Up a Sport


Do you like tennis or golf? Well, start to love them both! Being active will boost your confidence and help you stay fit. Golf courses and tennis clubs are places that men go to with their friends. If you join one, you can better your game, stay active, and meet new people.

9. Start Reading

Reading is a great way to escape your day-to-day troubles. Go to a bookstore and kill two birds with one stone. You can find a book and a brand new man. Some men love to learn and are always looking for reading material. If you’re browsing the same aisle, you know you have something in common.

10. Get Cultured


Experience a typical New York moment by going to a museum. Depending on what type of art you enjoy, there are various different types of exhibits you can view. If you meet a man at a museum, chances are he’s interesting and cultured. You can also brush up on some art history while looking for that prospective boyfriend or husband.

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Don’t Call Men Back

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked but you never heard from her after the date? Did you ever text a woman to schedule another date and she didn’t reply? Here are 10 reasons why you might have asked a woman out again and she wasn’t interested.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. We can think you have all the qualities of someone we want to date, but we just didn’t feel a connection. You didn’t do anything wrong, we just weren’t feeling it. If the connection wasn’t there, chances are we won’t be too excited to go out with you again.

2. You’re Needy

Women like attention. We adore it when you make us feel special. However, that doesn’t mean we want you to text us so often that we have to create a customized text tone for you. Check in with us, but don’t text us all day. If you act needy, we won’t be too eager to see you again.

3. She Met Someone Else

When we went out with you, we thought you were pretty great. We had a nice time and hoped you would ask us out again. And then… we met someone else the next night that we liked better. Even though we had a good date with you, the next guy was our favorite. Don’t take it personally, we didn’t mean to forget about you.

5. You Bored Us

Women value personality more than looks. We want to date someone who’s really, really awesome. When we’re on a date, we want you to be the talker. We don’t want to lead the conversation and have to ask all of the questions. If you were shy and a little quiet, we might not have been so into you. We want to date someone charismatic who tries to get to know us.

6. No Future Here

Often, we go on a date and we had a nice time, but we just didn’t see a future with you. We have an idea of the type of man we want to take home to mom and dad. You could be a total catch, but if we didn’t see ourselves planning our wedding on pinterest with you as the groom, we’re not likely to go out with you again.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times we might go out with a man and have a terrific time, but we just weren’t sexually attracted to him. We enjoyed talking to him but we didn’t imagine ourselves being intimate with him. We put him in the friend zone from the moment he said hello. If there was no sexual chemistry, the possibility of another date are slim to none.

8. You’re Not Ready

Not everyone is ready for a relationship. A man can say he is, but deep down, he’s not done playing the field. As mature, strong individuals, we’ve dated enough to know that going out with someone who isn’t ready is a waste of our time (and yours!). If you’re not relationship ready, no hard feelings, we just don’t want to be pursued by you.

9. You’re Not Really Available

Some men don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. They talk about how they work 24/7 and have client dinners almost every night. We want to date someone who’s able to make us a priority. If you come off as too busy, the chances of a second date aren’t so good. Life is too short to be seeing someone who can’t give us 100 percent.

10. You’re Friend-less

Women want to date a man who has a life. We don’t want you to always rely on us for social plans. We expect you to have a few friends. We want to know that if we’re busy one night, you’re not going to be sitting at home on your couch making us feel guilty for being out. If you have no friends, we’re definitely going to wonder why. Sadly, if you’re friend-less, we won’t be so inclined to see you again.