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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

Want The Person Who Wants You!

Life is short. Romance, passion, success, and love are needed to make life fulfilling and great. Just like significant ingredients are needed to make life amazing, the same is true for a relationship. A relationship needs both people to love, cherish, respect, and care about each other equally.

Many people date someone who doesn’t really want them. Their partner doesn’t give them everything that they need. How do you know if you’re dating a man or a woman who really wants you? Well, that’s simple. You should be able to immediately answer YES to all of these questions.

  1. Compliments Are Key

Does the person you’re dating compliment you? Does he tell you that you’re beautiful? Does she tell you that you’re handsome? When you’re dating someone who wants you, they should flatter you often.

  1. I Feel So Good

Does he make you feel good about yourself? When you’ve had a bad day, does she still make you feel great? Does he empower you to feel like you can do anything? Does she tell you that you’re awesome? When you’re involved with someone, they’re supposed to make you feel fantastic – ALL the time!

  1. Intelligence is Sexy

In a strong relationship, your partner is supposed to make you feel wonderful. Does she tell you that you’re smart? Does he think that you’re intelligent? The person you’re dating is supposed to bring you up.

  1. Be Supportive

Does he emotionally support you? Does she mentally encourage you? When you care about someone, you want them to succeed and be happy doing whatever they love. You don’t have to share each other’s passions, but you should want to stand beside them as they pursue their goals.

  1. Some Encouragement, Please

Does he make you want to be a better person? Does she encourage you to be the best version of yourself? The person you’re with should inspire you to be extra fabulous.

  1. Let’s Get Busy

Do you want each other? A relationship is supposed to be pleasurable – literally. Does your partner want to pleasure you? To keep it G rated, answer these questions. Does he want to kiss you often? Does she want to make out with you whenever she can? Plain and simple, your partner should want to sexually satisfy you.

  1. I’m Special

Does he make you feel special? Does she make you feel lucky? When you’re happy with someone, you feel like you’re on top of the world. You feel fortunate because you’re dating someone incredible. The person you’re seeing should feel that way too.

  1. Be Caring

Does he surprise you with your favorite dessert? Does she ever bring home your meal of choice just because? The man you’re dating should show you that he cares about you by being thoughtful. The woman you’re seeing should make your day better by doing small things to show you how much she adores you.

  1. A Little Romance

Romance is needed to keep a relationship alive. If you like flowers, does he ever bring them home for you? If you hate a certain chore, does she ever do it for you? Does he leave you a note saying how he can’t wait to see you later? Does she ever send you a love text? Being romantic is a simple way to increase your love connection.

The man or woman you’re seeing should make you feel like a King or a Queen. I hear too many stories of people who aren’t happy in a relationship –  they’re just comfortable. They’re afraid of going back to the dating pool so they stay with someone out of fear. Don’t let that be you. Whether you’ve been with someone for 5 months, or 5 years, you deserve the best. You should be with someone who wants you.

Top Reasons Why Men Don’t Call Women Back

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked but you didn’t hear from him after the first date? Did you ever text a man after a fantastic evening out and he didn’t reply?

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that men and women are very different. Men, unlike women, are logical. They don’t spend hours obsessing over everything they do. Men are simple – they either like us or they don’t. Here are 9 reasons why you might have had an amazing date but you never heard from the guy again.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. A man can think you’re gorgeous, smart, well-dressed, very sweet, and awesome, but he just didn’t feel any chemistry. If the connection wasn’t there, he won’t be asking you out again.

2. Rudeness

Sometimes women act rudely on a date. They forget to treat everyone with kindness. They aren’t friendly to doormen, waiters, busboys, or taxi drivers. There’s never a reason to be anything but nice to everyone you meet. Being bitchy or obnoxious isn’t cool. If you’re disrespectful to anyone, your date isn’t going to want to see you again.

3. Lateness Isn’t Tolerated

Arriving fashionably late is a huge faux pas. Making someone wait shows a lack of respect for the person you’re meeting. It makes people think you’re inconsiderate. If you’re late to a date, it can easily put things in a sour mood from the get-go and ruin your chances of getting a follow up phone call.

4. He Met Someone Else

Your date could have thought you were wonderful. He might have had a great time and was planning on asking you out again. And then… he met someone else the next night that he liked better. He chose to pursue her, instead of you, even though he thought you had a really, really good date. It happens all the time. Don’t take it personally, he wasn’t for you!

5. You Hurt His Feelings

Men generally aren’t as sensitive as women, but they do get offended. It’s important to always be nice. Kindness is contagious. I certainly wouldn’t want to go on another date with someone who hurt my feelings. Insulting someone isn’t nice. If you say something that your date thinks is rude, don’t expect him to call you.

6. No Future Here

Often, you go on a date and both of you had a nice time. But, for him, something was off. He could have thought you’re extraordinary, but he just didn’t see a future with you. Some men, (not all!), have an idea about what type of woman they want to marry and take home to meet their family. You could be a total catch, but he just didn’t think you fit into his life long-term.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times you might go out with someone and he had a terrific time, but he wasn’t sexually attracted to you. He enjoyed talking to you but he didn’t imagine himself being intimate with you. He put you in the friend zone from the moment you met.

8. Intellectual Curiosity

Being intellectually stimulating is essential. Men want to date a woman that they can learn from. They’re attracted to women who are curious and challenging. As an example, if he likes talking about football and politics, and you enjoy conversing about shopping and cooking, he most likely won’t want to go out with you again. Don’t be discouraged, there’s someone out there who has the same interests as you.

9. You’re Not Available

Not everyone is emotionally available. Some women don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. Often, they talk about their job 24/7 or they mention all of the things that they have going on in their life. To men, that isn’t a good thing. Men want to date someone who’s independent and has a life, but is able to make them a priority. If you come off as too busy, the chances of a second date are slim.

Now that you know the main reasons why men don’t call women back, accept it and move on. Don’t over analyze everything and get upset. Realize that you’re fabulous. If you went out with someone you liked and he didn’t get in touch with you again, move on. Know that you deserve better. There are plenty of remarkable guys out there who will want to go out with you again and will be very excited about it!

9 Mistakes Women Make In Bed

More often than not, your bedroom routine can use a little spicing up. You love your man and expect him to initiate sex, right? Wrong! A relationship takes work. Sex, believe it or not, is part of that work. So, study up so when it comes to sex, you can be mistake-free.

Mistake #1: Sweats and/or Pajamas

Comfy clothes are the best, I know. After a long day at the office, all you want to do is change out of your work attire and put on your sweats or jammies. But, comfy clothes aren’t a turn on to your man. Men constantly complain that once women are in a relationship (or married) they stop trying. The sexy lingerie disappears and is replaced with cozy attire. So, if you want to make things more exciting, shed those comfy clothes and wear something that’s a turn on to your partner.

Mistake #2: NOT Being The Initiator

Plain and simple, men love when women initiate sex. Men need to feel wanted. The best way to show your man that you want him is to initiate sex. So, get involved! Take the lead and get your partner into bed with you.

Mistake #3: Giving Too Many Orders

Sex isn’t a time to be bossy and controlling. Men don’t like hearing a detailed list of instructions. You should 100% tell your partner what you like. But, keep in mind he wants to pleasure you, not feel like he’s back in school. Be positive; he wants to hear what he can do to please you and how it will excite you.

Mistake #4: Not Being Confident

Confidence is sexy. Men like women to be sure of themselves – all of the time. Being proud of your body, especially when you’re naked, is one of the sexiest things you can do. Don’t hide your curves or that extra imperfection you think you have. Embrace your body.

Mistake #5: Don’t Expect Him to Do Everything

Sex is an activity that involves two people. You have to be present. Don’t expect him to do everything. You want your man to feel like you’re taking an active role in his pleasure.

Mistake # 6: Worrying About What You Look Like

Wanting to turn the lights off or trying to keep your clothes on during sex shows your man that you’re insecure. Remember, confidence is sexy. When you leave anything on, you’re showing your man that you have something to hide. Unless you’re wearing lingerie with a garter belt and thigh highs, lose whatever you have on. Be involved in the moment. Worrying about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself.

Mistake #7: Don’t Expect Him To Read Your Mind

Men aren’t mind readers. They don’t always know what you want or what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Communication is key, even in sex!

Mistake #8: Faking It

If you’re faking it, you’re the one who’s losing out! Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and filled with orgasms. If your man isn’t “getting you there,” tell him! Show him what you like and give him a chance to pleasure you. You’re wasting your time and his if you don’t give him a chance to make you feel great.

Mistake #9: Losing your sexuality

Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s easy not to make your sex life a priority. Perhaps you’re too tired, you’re caught up with being a new mother, or you’re critical of the newfound weight that you just noticed appeared on your thighs. You have to remember to pay attention to yourself and your partner. If you put your man or your relationship on a back burner, one day it will burn up.

Ladies, it’s time to remember that every woman should have an inner sexual goddess. Find yours and go have some fun!

 

10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed

Being good in bed is really, really important. Here are 10 sex mistakes men make VERY often. Read on to make sure you’re not doing any of them!

1.      Don’t Jip Us, Please

Women love foreplay. We adore being kissed and explored. We consider foreplay an essential part of sex. When we don’t indulge in foreplay, we feel like we’re being jipped. Skipping foreplay makes sex feel rushed. Yes, there are times when sex is so passionate that foreplay is absolutely unthinkable. And then, it’s totally awesome. But when foreplay is regularly omitted, we’re not happy. Spend time kissing and caressing us, please.

2.      No Guarantees

Sex is a two way street. Just because you were satisfied, you can’t assume that we were too. Unless you made an effort to make it pleasurable for us, it may not have been. Keep in mind that not all women can have an orgasm on their own. Some women need a little extra assistance from you. Don’t think that we had an orgasm, unless you tried to make it happen.

3.      Refrain From Being Boring

Women have fantasies! We thrive on emotions. We’ve read 50 Shades of Gray and we liked it. We gossip about sex just as much as you do, if not more. So, explore our fantasies. Ask us what we like and we’ve always wanted to try.

4.      Don’t Forget To Trim!

Manscaping is important to us. It’s almost necessary to us as us shaving our legs is to you. In case you’re not tuned in to this new term, manscaping is defined as the removal or trimming of your hair “down there.” When you manscape, you’re making us happy.  So, please do it!

5.      Repetition Not Allowed

Sex should never be predictable. Women don’t ever want to have sex in the exact same position every time. We like sex to be the opposite of routine. We want it to be sensual and exciting. Remember how you couldn’t keep your hands off of us in the beginning of the relationship? Well, we want you to always feel that way.

6.      Be Oral

Going “downtown” is an absolute necessity. Plain and simple, no explanation needed. It should be something you do very frequently because you know we love it.

7.      Actress of The Year

It’s your job to know your partner’s body. You have to be aware of her likes and dislikes. You want to make sex as enjoyable as possible, for her (and you!). As a talented lover, you’re supposed to know if she’s faking it.

8.       Don’t Rush It

Coffee lines, doctor’s visits, and DMV appointments are all things that should be VERY quick. Sex, on the other hand, shouldn’t be. Some men have trouble lasting long enough for their partner to enjoy herself. Let’s hope you’re not one of those! You can’t put an estimated time on how long sex should be. There’s no universal average, because all women have different preferences. But it should be long enough to be pleasurable for both of you.

9.      Be The Man

Most of the time during sex, women want men to be in control. We want you to demonstrate to us that you’re our man. We like being flipped around and pushed up against walls. Be dominant and show off your manliness!

10.  Stay With Me

After sex, most women are filled with a lot of emotions. Our bodies have just released oxytocin, which causes us to be a little needier than usual. It’s our hormones fault, not ours! As a result, we like to relax for a few minutes after sex, and sometimes even cuddle. When you’re in a rush to go somewhere, you’re hurting our feelings. Stay and give us a few minutes of extra love.

How To Be Liked By The Most Important People in Your Boyfriend’s Life From A Matchmaker!

So you’ve found the man you’ve been waiting for your whole life. He’s smart, successful, great looking, and in shape. Best of all, he asked you to be his girlfriend! Now you just have to make sure everyone in his life likes you as much as you like him. Here’s a few tips from a Matchmaker for making nice with the important people in his life.

Parental Time
Your boyfriend’s parents are extremely important.  One way to make sure they love you is to always dress appropriate. It’s better to air on the safe side, and dress conservatively. You can never go wrong with a simple dress and heels. You should always demonstrate that you’re well-mannered and polite. All parents want their children dating someone smart, so make sure you’re aware of what’s going on in the world. You should read the newspapers on a daily basis anyway. But, if you don’t, brush up on them so you can be in the know. Last but not least, if you’ve been invited to his parents home, you must bring a gift. Flowers, a bottle of wine, or a candle are my go-to token gifts.

Sibling Love
If your man has siblings, you want their approval too. You should be the best version of yourself without trying too hard. I have a younger sister and she hates it when the men I date smother her with attention. She finds it awkward and uncomfortable. So if your bf has younger siblings, get to know them without trying too hard. Even if they’re still quite young, they’ll be able to sense it. If your beau has an older brother or sister, don’t try to be their best friend either. Be friendly and get to know them, but ease into the relationship. If you seem obsessed with being their best friend too soon, they’ll just end up thinking you’re a freak.

Friend Me!
Friends are almost as important as family, and most men care what their friends think of their new girl more than they’d like to admit. The best way to ingratiate yourself is to just be yourself. Make sure you’re easygoing and fun to be around. No one likes a high-maintenance gal.

So now that you know how to make everyone in your mans life fall in love with you, do it. Show them how special you are. Happy Dating!

The Most Important Traits of Successful Daters from A Matchmaker

Dating may have its ups and downs, but it’s important to remember why you’re out there in the first place. You want to be spending time with someone who will give you want you want. Because after all, there’s no use going after something that’s not right for you. You deserve only the best. So what’s the most important thing to remember while you’re out there sharing meals and drinks with new guys every week in the search for love? Stay true to yourself. If you’re not exactly sure what that means or how to do it read on. These are tips straight from a Matchmaker and of course they’re fabulous!

Love The One You Want
If you want to date a tall, dark, and handsome mysterious guy, no one can stop you. If you want to meet a guy with a motorcycle or an elementary school teacher (or one who’s both) you know what you’re attracted to and who will be good for you in the end. Don’t fight it. Trying to convince yourself that the perfect person on paper is right for you when that’s not who you’re innately attracted to will only lead you down the wrong path in the end.

Don’t Settle
Don’t put too much effort into a guy if you know in the end he’s not going to make you happy.  Be true to yourself and who you want to date. If you want a boyfriend but you’re hanging with a guy who can’t commit, don’t go out with him again. It’s a waste of your time and his.

You Can’t Change A Man
It’s not just men who love challenges. Ladies, if you meet a guy who says he doesn’t want a girlfriend, listen to him. Don’t make him into your pet project. Go after someone who wants to be your boyfriend, not a guy who clearly just told you he does not.

Have confidence
When you realize you’re fabulous, other people will too. When you appreciate yourself, other people will appreciate you. Dating is only fun if you realize how great you are. Don’t forget that you’re a catch and you should be with a guy who is chasing after you.

Be Yourself
When some women meet a man they like, they turn into the girl of his dreams. This isn’t healthy. Instead of turning into an actress, you should be with the man of your dreams. Besides, regardless of how good your acting skills are, your true self will come out eventually. So remember that honesty is the best policy and you deserve to be with any man you want.