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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

10 Things To Remind You That You Deserve The Absolute Best

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In life, we settle for so many average things because they’re convenient, and well, easy. One thing that should never be mediocre is love. Love should be amazing, mind blowing, life changing, and really, really wonderful. Love is supposed to make all of the common things feel so much more exciting. Here are 10 things to remind you that you deserve someone who will make you feel like the luckiest woman in the entire world.

1. You deserve someone who’s going to impact your life. When it comes to love, you shouldn’t settle for anything but the absolute best. You deserve someone who’s going to make an imprint in your life; someone who’s going to show you that they care about you. There’s a difference between telling someone you adore them, and showing them. Be with the person who will do anything to show you that he cares.

2. You deserve someone who misses you when he’s not with you. You ought to be with a man who finds himself thinking about you when he’s not with you and counting down the hours until he can see you again. Be with the man who always makes an effort to see you.

3. You deserve to be with a man who treats you well. You deserve someone who treats you like a Queen because he knows that’s what you are. He should jump through hoops for you. You matter to him and he reminds you of that on a daily basis. Be with the man who treats you right.

4. You deserve someone who challenges you. You deserve someone who will confront you when he doesn’t agree with you. He gives you his honest opinion and challenges you right to the core. Be with someone whom you find incredibly interesting.

5. You deserve desire. You deserve passion – the “I can’t stop thinking about you and have to have you right now” kind of passion. You should be with someone who makes you always feel wanted. You should be with someone who kisses you every morning and looks at you with love and warmth in his eyes. Be with someone who enjoys pleasuring you and always makes sure you’re sexually satisfied.

6. You deserve someone who incorporates you into his life. He’s eager to introduce you to his family, friends, and co-workers. He values the opinion of the important people in his life and he wants you to meet all of them. He tries to see you every chance he can. Be with someone who always makes time for you.

7. You deserve someone who is caring. You deserve a man who remembers the special occasions and note-worthy moments. You deserve someone who brings you flowers and chocolate just because. Be with someone who is kind.

8. You deserve a planner. You deserve someone who loves to plan because he knows it brings joy to your life. You should date someone who reminds you that you’re special, and makes an effort to make you happy. Be with someone who plans far in advance.

9. You deserve a romantic. You deserve a man who knows that chivalry isn’t dead. He opens doors for you, pulls out your chair, and courts you. He knows how to woo you. You deserve someone who holds your hand; someone who walks next to you and is proud to be dating you. You deserve to be with someone who knows he’s lucky to be your man. Be with someone who believes in romance.

10. You deserve someone who makes you better. He brings out the best in you and loves having you in his life. You deserve someone who goes out of his way to put a smile on your face. You’re worthy of a man who makes your dreams come true. Be with someone who makes you smile.

You deserve the fairy tale.