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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

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9 Signs Your Boyfriend Isn’t Ready To Propose

If you’re a typical girl, you’ve most likely thought about marriage and kids at least once in your life. Come on, you know it’s the truth. If you’ve been dating your man for more than a year, you, your mother, and everyone else around you is probably wondering when he’s going to propose.

As a Matchmaker, I meet women all day long. I hear so many stories of women who say they wasted their time with Mr. Wrong. Sure, they have some great memories from the relationship, but they wish they could get those precious years back. If you don’t want this to happen to you, and you’ve been dating for more than a year, familiarize yourself with these 9 telltale signs that your man isn’t going to put a ring on it.

1. He Avoids Weddings Like The Plague

When a guy isn’t squeamish about marriage, he’ll be all about attending weddings and he’ll want to you to come with him. If your man hates going to other people’s nuptials, that’s a good sign he isn’t ready for his own.

  1. He Doesn’t Talk About Getting Married

If you bring up the topic of marriage and he changes the subject ASAP, marriage isn’t something he’s thought about. If your man has an aversion to the M-word, he’s subtly letting you know that marriage probably isn’t part of his plan in the foreseeable future. Likewise, when you’re with other people and the topic of marriage or children is brought up, pay attention to how your boyfriend reacts. Does he quickly change the subject (bad!), or does he ever say things like “when I get married…” (good!)

  1. He Doesn’t Plan

Is your boyfriend allergic to planning? Does he only make plans for the immediate or short term future? If so, marriage likely isn’t a priority. Sure he might be ready to make a date for this week or the weekend, but if he’s hesitant to make plans six months from now, your future together may not be a sure thing in his mind.

  1. He’s Mr. Excuse Man

Men are simple creatures. When they want something, you’ll know. If they’re constantly making excuses about marriage or the future, it’s time to realize that something’s wrong. If he’s too busy and stressed to talk or think about marriage, it’s time to say sayonara. If he has too much going on to focus on buying a ring, your future together isn’t looking so bright. Any excuse isn’t a good thing. If your boyfriend blames his lack of interest in marriage on work, money, or family, he isn’t eager to walk down the aisle.

  1. He Says He’s Happy With The Way Things Are

Plain and simple, if your man tells you he that he’s happy with the way things are, or he doesn’t want to ruin the special relationship you have, he has no intention of taking your relationship to the next level.

  1. He Talks About The Glory Days

Pay close attention to what your boyfriend enjoys reminiscing about. Does he make references to how great the last vacation you guys took was? Or does he constantly and longingly tell stories about his college days? If he enjoys talking about his Spring Break ’08 or mentions how much misses going out every night with his friends, he’s probably not mature enough to wed just yet.

  1. He Has No Interest In Your Future

When you mention your 5-year plan, if he seems completely uninterested in what you have in mind, he isn’t looking to build a life together.

  1. None of His Friends are Married 

Are your boyfriend’s friends mostly married or mostly single? If he only wants to surround himself with happy bachelors instead of having a healthy mix of single and married friends, he’s not rushing to take things to the next step.

  1. He Hasn’t Mentioned Starting a Family

Men don’t have a baby clock ticking like women do. In a man’s brain, having a family is a natural thing that will happen one day once you’re married and the time is right. However, if he’s unwilling to discuss having a family one day, he may not be ready to walk down the aisle.

How A Matchmaker Says To Ask A Guy Out!

So you’re looking for a boyfriend, but you just can’t seem to find him. You go out all the time and have great conversations with men. But, nothing comes out of them. You’re tired of waiting. Here’s the answer, and it’s simple! Next time you see someone you’re interested in, ask him out. Follow these tips straight from a Matchmaker and you’ll have a date on your calendar ASAP.

Take The Initiative
These days, women can get away with anything. We aren’t timid little people. We’re strong and empowered. If you’re in a social situation and you see a man you find attractive, take the initiative. Some men are too shy to approach a woman. So, instead of waiting for him to come over to you, take matters into your own hands. Walk over to him and start a conversation.

Comfort is Key
Believe it or not, men aren’t foreign species. When they talk to a woman, they too like to feel comfortable. Tell your cutie that you like his shirt or that he has nice eyes. Compliments go a long way and are good ice breakers. If you make him feel at ease, asking him out will be that much easier.

Flirt, Flirt, Flirt
When you’re flirting, you can never go wrong. Men of all ages appreciate being flirted with. Be playful, sweet, and funny. If you make it known that you’re interested in him, he’ll know you’re going to ask him out. Being asked out by a fabulous woman who is sure of herself is flattering. Even if he’s not interested in you, he’ll still be a gentleman.

Tell Me More
Everyone loves to talk about themselves. Be a good listener and get to know the man you’re interested in. Ask him questions that won’t scare him away. Remember, no one likes to be interviewed.

Go For The Gold
Be sure of yourself. Confidence is sexy. Instead of beating around the bush, come right out and say it. Tell the man you’re interested in that you’ve enjoyed talking to him and would love to get to know him better. The worst he can say is no.

Don’t Be Afraid of Rejection
Everyone gets rejected at least once in their life. It’s part of dating. If you ask a man out, and he isn’t interested in you, he isn’t the One. Don’t be discouraged, it happens to everyone.  When you have the attitude that you have nothing to lose, you’re opening yourself up to love, which is essential.

So, now that you know how to ask a man out, go do it. Don’t be afraid. You have to take risks in order to fall in love. Happy Dating!

 

Dating Do’s and Don’ts: Dating Rules To Live By from A Matchmaker

When you’re dating, you have to put yourself out there until you find Mr. Right. Sometimes it takes a while, but in the end it’s always worth it. Here are the dating rules to live by from a Matchmaker, so that you don’t make the common dating mistakes.

The Do’s: These are the things you should be doing.

1. Ask Away
The best way to get to know a man is to ask him a ton of questions. Don’t make the date feel like an interview, but get to know him. Believe me, everyone loves to talk about themselves.

2. Dress Up
Putting yourself together is important – all the time. I’m a huge fan of leggings and T-shirts. If you ever run into me during the day, I’ll most likely be in spandex and some kind of comfy top. But that’s not what I wear on dates. I save my comfy clothes for when I hang out with my gfs. You should too. When you’re going on a date, play dress-up with yourself. Wear clothes that make you feel like a million dollars.

3. Be Confident
Confidence, confidence, confidence. Say it over and over again and remember how important it is. Men want to date a woman who’s sure of herself. They don’t want to date an insecure girl who’s always in doubt.

4. Be Honest About Your Feelings
Life is too short to keep your feelings a secret. If you like someone, make him aware of it.

5. Be Informed
 
Men are attracted to smart, sophisticated women. They like dating women who can bring something to the table. You don’t need to be a rocket scientist, but you should be aware of what’s going on in the world.

The Don’ts: The don’ts of dating are the things you should never do. They’re easy to remember.

1. Don’t Be A Wimp
No one likes wimps. At least I know I don’t. Most people say you should hide your feelings when you’re casually dating. That rule is so passé. When you’re dating someone, stand up for what you want. If you don’t, no one else will.

2. Don’t Be A Hussy
Everyone likes sex; sex is fun! But that doesn’t mean that you should go around having sex with 40 different guys. You should wait to sleep with someone until you’re exclusively dating. Men like a chase. They don’t want to date a girl who’s easy.

3. Be Game Free
Regardless of what your friends tell you, games aren’t cool. They’re for people who are afraid to be vulnerable and show their true colors. Do you want to be that girl? I didn’t think so. So don’t play games.

4. Bye Bye Neediness
Men want a woman who’s attentive, but there’s a difference between being attentive and being needy. When you’re attentive, you give a guy the right amount of attention without smothering him, but when you’re needy he’ll want to run in the opposite direction as soon as possible. So whatever you do, don’t be needy!

Now that you know a few of the simple do’s and don’ts of dating, follow them.