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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

7 Ways To Get Over A Breakup From A Matchmaker

A wise person once told me that it’s better to have loved and lost than never loved at all. I didn’t understand what this meant until I had my heart broken for the first time. After endless days, weeks, and months of crying over my broken heart (yes I can admit it), I finally realized what that meant. It’s better to have loved someone and to have your heart broken than to never be hurt and be single forever. So, if this sounds similar to what you’re going through, you must be wondering how to start living and dating again. Here are some tips from a Matchmaker that helped me through some of the rough times.

1. Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself
Rule #1: stop feeling sorry for yourself. We’ve all been there. You know, when you walk around thinking ‘poor me,’ right? Wrong! Moping doesn’t get you anywhere. Sure, your relationship was amazing. All of mine were too. But that doesn’t mean I sat around feeling sorry for myself.

2. Forget The Past
All relationships are great at one point. But yours is over now. So forget about it. Don’t analyze all of your good memories and try to figure out what went wrong. That won’t do any good.

3. Shop ‘Til You Drop
What better way to make yourself feel good than to buy some brand new clothes? A sexy new outfit can be better therapy than a 90 minute massage.

4. Run Your Heart Out
When you’re feeling low, the gym is a miracle worker. You’d be surprised how fun getting sweaty can be. Besides, endorphins are like a natural high. So instead of drinking during the day to cheer yourself up, hit the gym.

5. Party Hardy
Sitting on your couch watching TV is fun for a week. Trust me, you won’t be able to forget about your ex unless you’re out and about. Being social and having fun with your friends is what you’re supposed to do. All the time.

6. Get Busy
The best way to get over someone is to get with someone else. I’m not saying you should start sleeping around. Random sex isn’t sexy, it’s dirty. But an innocent make-out session never hurt anyone. In fact, it could be just what you need.

7. Date Up A Storm
Until you meet someone amazing who’s ten times better than your ex, you won’t forget about him. And let’s face it, you aren’t going to meet Mr. Right sitting on your couch eating Chinese food. Believe me, I’ve been there and another relationship doesn’t just appear out of thin air. You have to date, date, and date some more. Remember, regardless of how bad your breakup was, it always gets better. So get out there and have fun.

 

The Most Important Traits of Successful Daters from A Matchmaker

Dating may have its ups and downs, but it’s important to remember why you’re out there in the first place. You want to be spending time with someone who will give you want you want. Because after all, there’s no use going after something that’s not right for you. You deserve only the best. So what’s the most important thing to remember while you’re out there sharing meals and drinks with new guys every week in the search for love? Stay true to yourself. If you’re not exactly sure what that means or how to do it read on. These are tips straight from a Matchmaker and of course they’re fabulous!

Love The One You Want
If you want to date a tall, dark, and handsome mysterious guy, no one can stop you. If you want to meet a guy with a motorcycle or an elementary school teacher (or one who’s both) you know what you’re attracted to and who will be good for you in the end. Don’t fight it. Trying to convince yourself that the perfect person on paper is right for you when that’s not who you’re innately attracted to will only lead you down the wrong path in the end.

Don’t Settle
Don’t put too much effort into a guy if you know in the end he’s not going to make you happy.  Be true to yourself and who you want to date. If you want a boyfriend but you’re hanging with a guy who can’t commit, don’t go out with him again. It’s a waste of your time and his.

You Can’t Change A Man
It’s not just men who love challenges. Ladies, if you meet a guy who says he doesn’t want a girlfriend, listen to him. Don’t make him into your pet project. Go after someone who wants to be your boyfriend, not a guy who clearly just told you he does not.

Have confidence
When you realize you’re fabulous, other people will too. When you appreciate yourself, other people will appreciate you. Dating is only fun if you realize how great you are. Don’t forget that you’re a catch and you should be with a guy who is chasing after you.

Be Yourself
When some women meet a man they like, they turn into the girl of his dreams. This isn’t healthy. Instead of turning into an actress, you should be with the man of your dreams. Besides, regardless of how good your acting skills are, your true self will come out eventually. So remember that honesty is the best policy and you deserve to be with any man you want.

 

What Men Really Want In A Woman from A Matchmaker

We all know the stereotype that all men want is sex. But that’s not true. Yes, they want sex. Who doesn’t? They want MORE than just sex. Men want women with the 4B’s – beauty, brains, body, and balance. These are straight from a Matchmaker, so it’s of course the truth!

1. Beauty
Men want women who are beautiful. Don’t worry, you don’t have to look like a model to be beautiful. You should be the best version of you and focus on your positive attributes. If you have beautiful eyes, accentuate them. If you have great legs, show them off. If you have amazing hair, make sure you wear it down. Hopefully you see where I’m going here. Work with what you have!

2. Brains, Brains, Brains
Intelligence is sexy, and men are captivated by smart women. You don’t need an MBA from Harvard Business School to be considered smart (if you do have one, kudos to you). Instead, you should be aware of what’s going on in the world—read the news, watch CNN, and be in the know. Men are intrigued by women who challenge them and bring something to the table.

3. Body Confidence
Men like women who are fit and in good shape. They aren’t attracted to someone who’s rail thin. Curves are sexy. Keep in mind men like toned women so you should make sure you look good in AND out of clothes.

4. A Zen Lifestyle
Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Men enjoy dating someone who can balance their job, their family, their friends, and a relationship. They’re drawn to women who are independent. They like women who are down to Earth and aren’t drama queens.