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The Importance of Sex in a Relationship

Sex. It’s a topic that men and women love talking about. It’s something that everyone thinks about – even when they’re not sexually active. And, guess what, it’s very important in a relationship. In fact, it’s just as imperative as trust and communication.

Sex is something that’s different for men and women. It’s a universal form of pleasure and a way to de-stress. It also gives you a level of closeness with your significant other. Here are 7 reasons why sex is important in a relationship.

Passion, Passion, Passion

The best relationship you can have is with someone who’s your best friend and your lover. If you’re in a relationship that’s become sex-less, you might as well be dating just a friend. Yes, it’s that simple.

Relationships need passion. They need excitement and sexiness. Having sex with your partner keeps the spark alive. It makes the relationship desirable, stimulating, and fun.

Stress-Free

Having sex helps relieves stress. It releases endorphins and other hormones that make you feel good. When you’re stress free and feel great, you function better.

Keeping the Connection Alive

Sex is something simple you can do to make yourself (and your partner!) very happy. It promotes intimacy, reassurance, and shows you both that you’re wanted and needed. It tells your partner that you can still make time for each other.

Sex a form of communication. It’s a way of assuring your significant other that the love is still there and everything is okay, regardless of how intense life becomes.

Sleep Tight

Sex helps you sleep better. It’s not just the fabulous romp session that makes you sleep like a baby. After sex, a chemical called oxytocin is released, which helps you sleep soundly.

It Makes You Happy

People who have sex very often are generally happier than those who don’t. Having sex puts an extra pep in your step. It also boots your self-confidence and gives you a better positive attitude about yourself.

It Keeps Your Partner Happy

When men are stressed, sex makes them feel better. It makes them feel wanted and needed. Plain and simple, having sex makes a man feel good about himself. If you’re in a sex-less relationship, your partner isn’t 100% satisfied. It’s a no-brainer that if he isn’t happy with your sex life, he’s going to start looking for sex from someone else.

Sex is the glue that’s needed in a relationship. It re-connects you and puts you in tune with your partner. Sex keeps your relationship alive.

Bring On The Positivity

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Positive mind. Positive vibes. Positive life. How wonderful does that sound!? And, it’s not difficult to achieve. Here are 4 tips to help you increase the positivity in your life.

1. Smile

Smiling is really important. If you walk around NYC, you’d be surprised how many people don’t smile. Too many people have a permanent frown on and that isn’t cool. You want to be happy, right? So start by looking it.

2.  Do Something Nice For Someone Else

Kindness is contagious. So is karma. Try something new and indulge in a random act of kindness. If you do something nice for someone else, it makes your day better, and theirs. The person you’re being nice to is (hopefully!) likely to continue the kindness.  On Friday’s, I’m a fan of buying coffee for the person behind me in line at Starbucks. They’re usually so surprised and excited that their day automatically starts off with positive vibes.

3. Think Nice Thoughts 

Make an effort to only think nice thoughts. When you focus on the good things in your life, you’re setting yourself up for success. Think about what you love most about yourself. What’s the most exciting thing happening in your personal life? What would your friends say is your best quality? What do people like most about working with you?  Increase the positivity in your life by realizing how great you are and portraying it to those around you.

4. Surround Yourself With Optimism 

Look at who your friends are. Are they supportive? Are your friends good people? Do they encourage you to better yourself? When you surround yourself with people who enhance your life, it’s easy to be an optimist.

 

9 Mistakes Women Make In Bed

More often than not, your bedroom routine can use a little spicing up. You love your man and expect him to initiate sex, right? Wrong! A relationship takes work. Sex, believe it or not, is part of that work. So, study up so when it comes to sex, you can be mistake-free.

Mistake #1: Sweats and/or Pajamas

Comfy clothes are the best, I know. After a long day at the office, all you want to do is change out of your work attire and put on your sweats or jammies. But, comfy clothes aren’t a turn on to your man. Men constantly complain that once women are in a relationship (or married) they stop trying. The sexy lingerie disappears and is replaced with cozy attire. So, if you want to make things more exciting, shed those comfy clothes and wear something that’s a turn on to your partner.

Mistake #2: NOT Being The Initiator

Plain and simple, men love when women initiate sex. Men need to feel wanted. The best way to show your man that you want him is to initiate sex. So, get involved! Take the lead and get your partner into bed with you.

Mistake #3: Giving Too Many Orders

Sex isn’t a time to be bossy and controlling. Men don’t like hearing a detailed list of instructions. You should 100% tell your partner what you like. But, keep in mind he wants to pleasure you, not feel like he’s back in school. Be positive; he wants to hear what he can do to please you and how it will excite you.

Mistake #4: Not Being Confident

Confidence is sexy. Men like women to be sure of themselves – all of the time. Being proud of your body, especially when you’re naked, is one of the sexiest things you can do. Don’t hide your curves or that extra imperfection you think you have. Embrace your body.

Mistake #5: Don’t Expect Him to Do Everything

Sex is an activity that involves two people. You have to be present. Don’t expect him to do everything. You want your man to feel like you’re taking an active role in his pleasure.

Mistake # 6: Worrying About What You Look Like

Wanting to turn the lights off or trying to keep your clothes on during sex shows your man that you’re insecure. Remember, confidence is sexy. When you leave anything on, you’re showing your man that you have something to hide. Unless you’re wearing lingerie with a garter belt and thigh highs, lose whatever you have on. Be involved in the moment. Worrying about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself.

Mistake #7: Don’t Expect Him To Read Your Mind

Men aren’t mind readers. They don’t always know what you want or what you’re thinking unless you tell them. Communication is key, even in sex!

Mistake #8: Faking It

If you’re faking it, you’re the one who’s losing out! Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and filled with orgasms. If your man isn’t “getting you there,” tell him! Show him what you like and give him a chance to pleasure you. You’re wasting your time and his if you don’t give him a chance to make you feel great.

Mistake #9: Losing your sexuality

Once you’re in a committed relationship, it’s easy not to make your sex life a priority. Perhaps you’re too tired, you’re caught up with being a new mother, or you’re critical of the newfound weight that you just noticed appeared on your thighs. You have to remember to pay attention to yourself and your partner. If you put your man or your relationship on a back burner, one day it will burn up.

Ladies, it’s time to remember that every woman should have an inner sexual goddess. Find yours and go have some fun!

 

10 Habits Of Happy Couples

Most people think a happy relationship should happen naturally when you’re with the right person. That’s not true. Relationships require work and a lot of effort. The best relationships are those that are filled with honesty and communication. Here are 10 things you can do to make sure you’re a great couple.

1. Get Into Bed At The Same Time

Remember when you first started dating and you couldn’t wait to “go to bed” and sleep next to each other? Well that’s necessary to maintain. When you go to bed together, you’re making sure you’re on the same page.  Whether you choose to have sex, or just cuddle, going to bed together shows that you’re putting in effort to make sure you’re connecting.

2. Find Common Interests

It’s important to enjoy doing things together as a couple. You don’t need to share all hobbies but you should have activities that just the two of you can do. It doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you’re having fun doing it together.

3. Hold Hands

Holding hands increases the closeness, which is always needed. It’s a simple act that makes you feel loved and connected to each other. When you’ve been together for many years, it’s easy for the intimacy to fade. When you hold hands as you walk down the street, you’re showing each other that you still care.

4. Focus On The Positive

Happy couples accentuate the positive things their partner does. They don’t nit-pick or criticize. It’s crucial to ensure that you’re complementary and supportive. You want to make your partner feel good.

5. Kiss Each Other And Say “I Love You”

Before you leave for work in the morning, give your partner a really great goodbye kiss and say “I Love You.” When you come home from a long day, do the same thing. Your morning and evening greeting should be something that you look forward to. Once you start kissing and sharing your feelings often, you’ll appreciate each other more. People forget that the small things make a difference. When you begin your day with something positive, you’re starting on a good note.

6. Don’t Forget Each Other

In the crazy hectic world we live in, it’s easy to get caught up and become too busy for each other. Remember how excited you were to see each other when you first started dating? Well, nothing is stopping you from feeling that way all the time. Do little things to make each other happy. Be thankful that you have someone you love who loves you back. Look at your partner and be grateful that you’re together.

7. Plan “Date Night”

Having a date night is essential. Just like when you first started seeing each other, one of you should plan the entire night. Date night encourages you to do something to better your relationship. As silly as it sounds, getting dressed up and going out, just the two of you, keeps the romance strong. When you work on keeping the spark alive, you’re making an effort to be happy.

8. Be Best Friends

Being friends with your significant other takes work. When you’ve been together for what feels like an eternity, it’s easy to shut each other out. Communicating is essential. You have to make sure that you find time to listen to each other and share your feelings.

9. Break The Expected Routine 

Your relationship shouldn’t feel like a routine. Do you call each other at the same time every day? Does every night consist of the same activity? If so, switch it up. Your life as a couple shouldn’t become predictable. You don’t want anything to ever feel like it’s scheduled. You should embrace spontaneity and surprise each other with fun things to do.

10. Focus On Each Other

When you spend time together, really be together. Put your phones away and focus on each other. If you’re spending the night in, light some candles. Make your home feel like a home. Set the mood so you feel relaxed and carefree. If you’re at a restaurant, make eye contact and enjoy each other’s company. Be present so your time together is valuable.