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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

How to Tell If He’s The One

Being in love is amazing. It’s one of the best feelings in the world. When you’re madly in love with someone special, it’s hard not to imagine spending the rest of your lives together. But how do you know for sure that it’s real love and it will last? Here are 10 ways to tell if he’s The One.

1. He Loves All The Little Things About You

Whether you’re having a great day or a bad one, he understands. He loves you at your best, and your absolute worst. There’s no pretending. You don’t have to be “on” in front of him – you can just be you. He makes you feel good about all those things you don’t like about yourself.

2. You Adore Everything About Him

You’ve never cared about someone this much. You love everything about him. You have fun with him wherever you are.

3. You Can Confide In Him

He’s your best friend and your confidant. You feel comfortable telling him everything. He knows what you’re trying to say without you having to explain it. He helps you solve any dilemmas and he gives you advice when you need it.

4. He Makes You A Better Person

He should be your biggest cheerleader. Does he bring out the best in you? Does he push you to be a better person and try new things? Does he believe in you and encourage you to accomplish your goals? If he sees the best in you, respects you, and makes you a better person, he’s a keeper.

5. You’re Super Attracted to Each Other

Physically and emotionally, you’re so compatible. You find everything about him incredibly sexy. Your life in the bedroom is just as exciting as it was when you first met.

6. He Treats You Like A Queen

You know he’s The One because he treats you like a Queen. He’s good to you in ways that you never thought were possible. He compliments you and makes you feel beautiful. He never stops trying to make you happy. He makes you feel special and knows exactly what to do to put a smile on your face.

7. It’s Easy To Communicate With Him

Talking to him is easy. Whether you’re sharing exciting news or telling him about your work day, he listens and he cares. He’s the first person you want to share exciting things with. He’s there for you whenever you need him.

8. You Have The Same Beliefs

It’s not common to agree on everything. You probably have different opinions on a few topics. But when it comes to fundamental beliefs, you’re on the same page. You share the same principles and values about kids, finances, and family.

9. He Cares About The People In Your Life.

He makes an effort with the people you care most about. He’s kind to your friends and includes them in your life together. Your friends and family mean something to him.

10. He Makes Everything Better.

Last, but not least, you want to be with him. Regardless of what kind of mood you’re in, you’d rather be with him than without him. If you’re having a bad day, just by being with him, you instantly feel better. You want to be near him, all the time.

How To Be Liked By The Most Important People in Your Boyfriend’s Life From A Matchmaker!

So you’ve found the man you’ve been waiting for your whole life. He’s smart, successful, great looking, and in shape. Best of all, he asked you to be his girlfriend! Now you just have to make sure everyone in his life likes you as much as you like him. Here’s a few tips from a Matchmaker for making nice with the important people in his life.

Parental Time
Your boyfriend’s parents are extremely important.  One way to make sure they love you is to always dress appropriate. It’s better to air on the safe side, and dress conservatively. You can never go wrong with a simple dress and heels. You should always demonstrate that you’re well-mannered and polite. All parents want their children dating someone smart, so make sure you’re aware of what’s going on in the world. You should read the newspapers on a daily basis anyway. But, if you don’t, brush up on them so you can be in the know. Last but not least, if you’ve been invited to his parents home, you must bring a gift. Flowers, a bottle of wine, or a candle are my go-to token gifts.

Sibling Love
If your man has siblings, you want their approval too. You should be the best version of yourself without trying too hard. I have a younger sister and she hates it when the men I date smother her with attention. She finds it awkward and uncomfortable. So if your bf has younger siblings, get to know them without trying too hard. Even if they’re still quite young, they’ll be able to sense it. If your beau has an older brother or sister, don’t try to be their best friend either. Be friendly and get to know them, but ease into the relationship. If you seem obsessed with being their best friend too soon, they’ll just end up thinking you’re a freak.

Friend Me!
Friends are almost as important as family, and most men care what their friends think of their new girl more than they’d like to admit. The best way to ingratiate yourself is to just be yourself. Make sure you’re easygoing and fun to be around. No one likes a high-maintenance gal.

So now that you know how to make everyone in your mans life fall in love with you, do it. Show them how special you are. Happy Dating!

What Men Really Want In A Woman from A Matchmaker

We all know the stereotype that all men want is sex. But that’s not true. Yes, they want sex. Who doesn’t? They want MORE than just sex. Men want women with the 4B’s – beauty, brains, body, and balance. These are straight from a Matchmaker, so it’s of course the truth!

1. Beauty
Men want women who are beautiful. Don’t worry, you don’t have to look like a model to be beautiful. You should be the best version of you and focus on your positive attributes. If you have beautiful eyes, accentuate them. If you have great legs, show them off. If you have amazing hair, make sure you wear it down. Hopefully you see where I’m going here. Work with what you have!

2. Brains, Brains, Brains
Intelligence is sexy, and men are captivated by smart women. You don’t need an MBA from Harvard Business School to be considered smart (if you do have one, kudos to you). Instead, you should be aware of what’s going on in the world—read the news, watch CNN, and be in the know. Men are intrigued by women who challenge them and bring something to the table.

3. Body Confidence
Men like women who are fit and in good shape. They aren’t attracted to someone who’s rail thin. Curves are sexy. Keep in mind men like toned women so you should make sure you look good in AND out of clothes.

4. A Zen Lifestyle
Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Men enjoy dating someone who can balance their job, their family, their friends, and a relationship. They’re drawn to women who are independent. They like women who are down to Earth and aren’t drama queens.