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Why Being In Love Is The Best Feeling In The World

Love makes you happy. Love makes you hopeful. Love makes you grateful. Love makes you inspired. Love changes your life.

The first time I fell in love, it was mind blowing. Literally. I had heard about how amazing love is in all the romantic comedies I’ve seen. I’ve even read about it in the Jackie Collins and Danielle Steel novels I like to read when I’m not able to fall asleep at night. But I didn’t know what love was really like until I experienced it.

Having such strong feelings about another person shook me to my core. It made me re-evaluate my beliefs. I learned what it was like to really care about someone. Everything I had believed, everything I stood for, suddenly disappeared. I found a whole new world opened up for me.

I was no longer closed-minded. I found myself saying YES to things I would ordinarily say no to. I learned the meaning of never say never. I had a new outlook on life. Here are 10 reasons why being in love is the best feeling in the world.

  1. Love Makes You Feel Invincible

Love makes you feel as if you can do anything. Your approach on life is brighter and happier. You have a sudden courage to do things you didn’t think you were able to do.

2. Love Gives You Inspiration

Being in love makes you feel inspired. It gives you a can-do attitude that you can approach anything, anywhere, anytime. Being in love gives you motivation. It makes you feel like you can take on the world.

3. Love Makes You Happy 

Plain and simple, love makes you happy.

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4. Love Makes You A Hopeful Romantic

Falling in love makes you a romantic. Love gives you hope that there is a perfect person out there.

5. Love Makes You Eliminate Your Fear

The things you used to fear suddenly disappear when you’re in love. You know you have your own personal cheerleader in your corner to help you with whatever is needed. You almost feel protected because you’re trouble and drama free.

6. Love Makes You Into The Best Version of Yourself

When you’re in love, you’re a better version of yourself. You’re nice to everyone, and eternally grateful. Love makes you want to spread joy to everyone you meet.

7. Love Makes You Rich

Love makes you feel rich. You don’t stress about your finances or material things because you feel so damn rich.

8. Love Puts You In A State of Total Confusion

Love makes you confused – it shakes you to your core and sometimes makes you rethink your beliefs. Love is puzzling. It makes you marvel how you can care about someone so much. Love gives you a yearning is something you don’t understand until you’re madly in love. You can spend countless nights awake thinking about the person who changed your life. You can miss them in ways you never knew. Welcome to love!

9. Love Makes You Selfless

Love makes people mad, literally, because it encourages you to want to do things you aren’t used to doing. It makes you selfless in ways you didn’t know existed. You find yourself thinking about the needs of your partner before your own.

10. Love Makes You Believe

Love makes you hopeful. It makes you believe in happily ever after. When you’re single, you wonder if you’re ever going to meet your soulmate. Love makes you know that is possible.

10 Things Your Girlfriend Is Thinking, But Won’t Tell You

Women are always thinking; it’s in our nature. We overthink and we can’t help it. There are so many things your girlfriend wants to tell you but doesn’t because she cares about you and doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Well, here are 10 things we wish we could say without the sugarcoating.

1. You Need Some New Clothes

A lot of men are handsome, smart, accomplished, and have their life together. But they don’t dress like it and it drives us crazy. We want your clothes to portray how amazing you are. You don’t need to look like you just stepped out of GQ, but we would like it if you tried to be a little more fashionable.

2. You’re A Tad Bit Messy

No one is perfect. Women don’t want to date an OCD neat freak. We don’t expect your fridge to be spotless or your t-shirts to be folded in a certain way. That would just be weird. We want the bare minimum, really, just the basics. So, here’s a hint: we hate it when you leave the toilet seat up and we would like you to be a bit tidier in general.

3. Where’s The Romance?

As women, we want the romance. We love being woo-ed. We appreciate when you do things that make us feel special. Schedule a date night, bring us chocolate, send us flowers. We notice all of the little things you do and we so appreciate them.

4. We Love Foreplay

Foreplay is one of our favorite things. It gets us in the mood – literally! Women adore being kissed, explored, and caressed. Spend some time enjoying our bodies, please!

5. Planning is an Aphrodisiac

We love it when you plan. Planning is super duper sexy. Every woman wants to date a man who plans and takes charge. Organizing a date is an easy way to make us happy. As long as you arrange it, we’re thrilled to be doing almost anything with you.

6. We Crave More Sex

Yes, that’s right, we crave more sex. Women are sexual too. We want to enjoy ourselves just as much as you do. We like to feel wanted and needed. We miss the days when you couldn’t keep your hands off of us!

7. We Enjoy Our Down Time

Women like girls nights and “me time.” We need time for ourselves. Sometimes we just want to be lazy and sit on our couch. We like to watch chick flicks, make healthy dinners, and relax. We want to tell you that we need more alone time, but we don’t want to offend you.

8. We Have a Time Frame

Our marriage and baby clocks are always ticking. Does this mean that we’re desperate to get married and have babies? Absolutely not!! We have no desire to tie the knot to an average Joe. We’re looking to get married when we meet someone amazing that we can’t live without.  But, when we’re over the age of 25, we don’t need to date you for 5 years before we know it’s right. We have a time frame and we really want you to stick to it!

9. We Want To Feel Special

We’re overjoyed when you make an effort. Women need to feel like they’re important to you. Make your woman feel like she’s a priority.

10. The Get Out Of Jail Free Card

When we’re mad at you, we’re usually thinking pretty irrationally. So, if you’re in the doghouse, you’re going to need to redeem yourself.  I recommend oral sex as your get out of jail free card.  It works like a charm 98 percent of the time. If all else fails, a pair of Louboutins is always a good idea.

 

Date Someone Who Makes You Better

The person you date should enhance your life. He or she is supposed to make you smile more than you frown. They ought to make you feel great about yourself. They should fascinate you, amaze you, and of course, make you very, very happy. The person you date should make you better. Here are 14 dating tips to remind you what you should look for.

  1. Date someone who is passionate. Their zest for life should be intense and they should be exciting to be around. They need to make you feel intoxicated – in a wonderful way.
  2. Date someone who is curious about life. They must push their limits and yours! Pick a person who is stimulating – someone who has hobbies and interests. Let them encourage you to try new things and make you escape your comfort zone.
  3. Date someone who is captivating. When they walk into a room, all heads should turn because they’re so confident. They have a presence about them and that presence is impressive. Date someone who knows they’re incredible.
  4. Date a man or a woman who challenges you. Choose a person who can talk about anything, anywhere, anytime. Be with someone who emotionally satisfies you.
  5. Be with a partner who isn’t afraid to be unusual. Maybe she has a bit of an edge. Perhaps he is a little quirkier than you ordinarily like. His or her uniqueness is what makes them special.
  6. Date a man or a woman who is ambitious and has goals. They don’t need to have a 5-year plan, but they should have a list of things they want to accomplish. Someone who is goal oriented and eager to succeed is a good influence to be around.
  7. Date someone who believes in living life to the fullest. They’re happy taking advantage of all life’s simple pleasures. Fall in love with a person who has a natural love for life. They’re fun to be with because they enjoy any activity.
  8. Laughter is the best medicine. Choose a partner who cracks you up. They don’t have to be funny to everyone – just to you. They have the ability to make you literally LOL.
  9. Spend time with someone who can be your best friend. You should be able to talk to them about anything. They should provide you with advice when needed, and understand you in a way that no one else does. You can spend all day talking to them and never run out of things to say.
  10. Date someone who is drama free. Your relationship shouldn’t be an emotional rollercoaster. They’re dependable and you know you can count on them. They bring honesty into your life and they don’t “yes” you when you ask for the truth.
  11. Date someone who inspires you to have a “can do” attitude. When you’re with them, you find yourself trying things you would normally hate. Choose a partner who pushes you; someone who introduces you to things you’ve never thought you’d enjoy.
  12. Date someone who you find irresistible and really, really sexy. You can’t wait to be alone with them, and that feeling never gets old.
  13. Date someone who thinks you’re extraordinary. They compliment you often and make you feel like you’re the luckiest person in the world. They’re always your biggest cheerleader.
  14. Fall in love with someone who exhilarates you and makes you be the best version of yourself. Life should be better with them and they should be proud to have you in their life.

Make The Rest Of Your Life The Best Of Your Life!

unnamed-1You control your life.  You have the power to make it as amazing as you want it to be.  Here are 9 tips to help make your life super awesome.

1. Do Things That You Love

Take a moment to identify what makes you happy. It can be anything you like. I like to start my day off each morning with a hint of positivity. I listen to (and of course sing!) my favorite song. It’s simple, I know, but it puts a smile on my face. So it’s become a silly daily morning routine.

Whatever you love, do it as often as you can. You should feel like you’re on cloud nine at least once every day.

2. Get Focused

Focus on the now. When you’re in the moment, be present. Don’t think about the past or the future. Live what’s happening at the exact moment in time.

3. Create A Bucket List

Make a list of everything you want to do. Do you want to go to Bali and visit a Buddhist monastery? Is hiking the Grand Canyon on your wish list? Do you want to play hooky from work one day? Is it a goal of yours to visit every museum in your city? Write down everything, and anything, you want to do, and make an effort to make it happen. Experience as many things as you can.

4. Live For Yourself

Live for yourself. If you want to take a break from dating, go ahead. If you’re craving a slice of pizza, but you know it’s bad for you, eat it anyway. Perhaps you want to spend a whole day reading in bed. Go for it, and enjoy it. Do things because you want to, not because someone tells you to or you think you have to.

5. Stop Complaining

Complaining doesn’t get you anywhere. It makes you annoying and prevents you from attaining your ambitions. If you’re not happy with something in your life, change it. You have the power to do anything you want. So, what are you waiting for?

6. Like Your Job

Do work that you truly love. Not everyone gets to be a pro-athlete or travel the world and write about it on someone else’s tab, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy what you do. If you’re passionate about what you do, it’s not a job. You should have a career that you’re excited about. Life is too short to dread Monday mornings.

7. Be An Optimist

Be positive. Choose to be optimistic and have a sunny outlook on life. Don’t worry about the things that you can’t control. Focus on what you’re grateful for and what brings you joy.

8. Surround Yourself With Greatness

The people you surround yourself with have a big impact on your attitude. When you’re around happy, relaxed, vivacious people, it’s easy to have a positive outlook on everything. You should spend time with people who make you laugh, put a smile on your face, and of course, enhance your life.

9. Take Advantage

Take advantage of what your city has to offer. There are an array of things you can be doing at any given moment that are really, really awesome. Go to a wine tasting. Take a cooking class. Attend a cake making workshop. Sign up for an art class. Go on a yoga retreat. Spend the day in a bookstore.  Go see a play.  Listen to the opera. Experience a concert. Book a scavenger hunt. You get the point – do unique things that add greatness to your life.

Your life should be filled with joy. On any given day, you should be able to reflect on how fabulous your life is!

Make A Change

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If you’re looking for someone to change your life, you’re in luck. That person is YOU! As I mentioned in an earlier post today, life is short. It’s up to you to make your life as great as you want it to be. Here are 5 steps to help you make a positive change in your life.

1. Identify What You Want

Figure out what you want from life. Do you want to write a memoir? Then write it. Sit down and map out exactly how you’re going to make that happen. Are you tired of looking in the mirror and seeing a body that you’re not happy with? Then make a plan to change your body. Decide what steps you have to take to get the body of your dreams. You see where I’m going here. Whatever it is, identify what you want and strategize how to make it happen.

2. Empower Yourself

Take control of your life. Realize how powerful you are. If you don’t like something, recognize that you have the power to change it. Empower yourself to know that you can do absolutely anything you set your mind to.

3. Stop Making Excuses

Excuses are for people who don’t really want things. If you want to make something happen, you can. It’s that simple. There’s no such thing as being too busy. You can always find time for what’s important to you.

4. Decide How Badly You Want It

If you want to lose weight but you say you have no time, think about the men and women who wake up at 5 AM to go to the gym before work. Can that be you? I think so! Are you ready to devote your weekends to making your dreams come true? Successful authors who have a full time job spend their Saturday’s and Sunday’s writing their book. That can be you too. Whatever your goal is, you can make it come true.

5. Change Your Mindset

When you get into the mindset that you can do anything you want, positive things will happen. Your mind is very powerful. Tell yourself that you deserve greatness, and then make that happen!

Want The Person Who Wants You!

Life is short. Romance, passion, success, and love are needed to make life fulfilling and great. Just like significant ingredients are needed to make life amazing, the same is true for a relationship. A relationship needs both people to love, cherish, respect, and care about each other equally.

Many people date someone who doesn’t really want them. Their partner doesn’t give them everything that they need. How do you know if you’re dating a man or a woman who really wants you? Well, that’s simple. You should be able to immediately answer YES to all of these questions.

  1. Compliments Are Key

Does the person you’re dating compliment you? Does he tell you that you’re beautiful? Does she tell you that you’re handsome? When you’re dating someone who wants you, they should flatter you often.

  1. I Feel So Good

Does he make you feel good about yourself? When you’ve had a bad day, does she still make you feel great? Does he empower you to feel like you can do anything? Does she tell you that you’re awesome? When you’re involved with someone, they’re supposed to make you feel fantastic – ALL the time!

  1. Intelligence is Sexy

In a strong relationship, your partner is supposed to make you feel wonderful. Does she tell you that you’re smart? Does he think that you’re intelligent? The person you’re dating is supposed to bring you up.

  1. Be Supportive

Does he emotionally support you? Does she mentally encourage you? When you care about someone, you want them to succeed and be happy doing whatever they love. You don’t have to share each other’s passions, but you should want to stand beside them as they pursue their goals.

  1. Some Encouragement, Please

Does he make you want to be a better person? Does she encourage you to be the best version of yourself? The person you’re with should inspire you to be extra fabulous.

  1. Let’s Get Busy

Do you want each other? A relationship is supposed to be pleasurable – literally. Does your partner want to pleasure you? To keep it G rated, answer these questions. Does he want to kiss you often? Does she want to make out with you whenever she can? Plain and simple, your partner should want to sexually satisfy you.

  1. I’m Special

Does he make you feel special? Does she make you feel lucky? When you’re happy with someone, you feel like you’re on top of the world. You feel fortunate because you’re dating someone incredible. The person you’re seeing should feel that way too.

  1. Be Caring

Does he surprise you with your favorite dessert? Does she ever bring home your meal of choice just because? The man you’re dating should show you that he cares about you by being thoughtful. The woman you’re seeing should make your day better by doing small things to show you how much she adores you.

  1. A Little Romance

Romance is needed to keep a relationship alive. If you like flowers, does he ever bring them home for you? If you hate a certain chore, does she ever do it for you? Does he leave you a note saying how he can’t wait to see you later? Does she ever send you a love text? Being romantic is a simple way to increase your love connection.

The man or woman you’re seeing should make you feel like a King or a Queen. I hear too many stories of people who aren’t happy in a relationship –  they’re just comfortable. They’re afraid of going back to the dating pool so they stay with someone out of fear. Don’t let that be you. Whether you’ve been with someone for 5 months, or 5 years, you deserve the best. You should be with someone who wants you.

Top 10 Places to Meet Women

You should be meeting women everywhere. Yes, I know that’s very general. But, there are more women than men in most cities, so women are literally all over the place. If the idea of “everywhere” is too broad for you, here are the top 10 places that are great to meet women.

1. Try A New Restaurant

Busy, single women don’t always like to cook for themselves. They think it’s too much of a hassle to cook for one person. This is why they need a boyfriend – so they can have someone to cook for! Just kidding. However, when they’re tired and hungry after work, single women are likely to dine out at a restaurant – either alone or with a girlfriend. So if you want to meet a new lady, try a different restaurant at least once a week.

2. Get Sweaty

It’s a fact that women like to workout. They want to look and feel great, so they frequent gyms and exercise studios. If you meet a woman at the gym, you can see what she really looks like when she’s all sweaty and sans makeup. If she looks good in exercise clothes, imagine how great she’ll look all dolled up. People who work out are usually much happier and more fun to be around.

3. Bring On The Vino

Wine tasting events are awesome opportunities to meet women because they’re something that women can attend alone. Not all women have a plethora of girlfriends to go out with, which limits their extra curricular activities. Women are eager to experience new things. Most women also appreciate a good glass of wine. You can kill two birds with one stone – meet a woman and learn something new about wine.

4. Take Your Dog For A Walk

If you’ve walked by a dog park before, you’ve probably noticed that it was filled with droves of women. A dog park is a place to take advantage of – especially while it’s still sort of nice out. You can tell your dog to start playing with her dog, and the rest is history. If you own a dog, try out a new dog park every so often.

5. Join A Meet-Up Group

Women who are active and enjoy being out and about join meet-up groups. Meet-up groups have events for virtually every kind of person and hobby. Depending on what activities you love, you can pursue all of them.

6. Start Cooking

Women who want to better their kitchen skills take cooking classes. A cooking class enables a woman to explore her culinary skills and have fun in a relaxed, non-pressuring setting. Go to a cooking class and you’re almost guaranteed to be the only man.

7. Go Au Natural

Hands down, Whole Foods is the best grocery store to meet women in. For some reason, it caters to a beautiful crowd. It’s unlike Trader Joes or Fairway. If you spend 5 minutes walking around, you’ll see tons of pretty, fit women. Head to Whole Foods, even if you don’t like food shopping!

8. Pick Up a Sport


Do you like tennis or running? Well, start to love them both! Tennis clubs and running groups are filled with active women. Joining a tennis or running club is like a trifecta; you can see women in cute workout attire, better your sport, and get in great shape.

9. Namaste

Yes, I know, yoga isn’t for everyone. Most men think it’s very feminine and too calm for them. But, it’s a fabulous way to meet women. The majority of women who practice yoga are naturally pretty and in shape. It’s a bold statement to make, so go to a yoga studio and see for yourself.

10. Brush up On Your Culture

Experience a typical New York moment by going to a museum or art gallery. There are always new exhibits to view. If you’re meeting a woman at a museum, chances are she’s interesting, cultured, and can teach you something. I mean, how sexy is intelligence!?

Do you have any more places to add to the list?

 

 

The Top 10 Places To Meet A Man

Meeting the opposite sex isn’t the easiest feat, especially when you work in a femme-heavy industry. So, here are 10 tips to help you cross paths with Mr. Right.

1. Eat Out

Busy, single men don’t have time to cook. This is why they need a girlfriend! Just kidding. However, when they’re tired and hungry after work, they dine out at restaurants, and usually at the bar. If you want to meet a man, try a new restaurant at least once a week.

2. Join a Gym

Gyms are places where all body conscious men go to let off some steam. If you meet a man at the gym, you can see what he really looks like when he’s all sweaty. If he looks good in gym clothes, he’ll look great in real clothes. People who work out are also much happier and more enjoyable to be around. (Translation: they’re a better partner to be with).

3. Pay Attention To Your Pet

The sun is out (for now!) and love is in the air.  Take advantage of the warm weather we’ve been experiencing.  Give your dog some extra attention and go to the park. If you don’t have a dog, ask a friend if you can borrow theirs or join them and their furry friend at the park. Many men think of dogs as soul mates (who else better understands their zest for the simple things in life?) and will often frequent dog runs. If a man sees a cute woman walking a dog, he will most likely start a conversation with her.

4. Fix Things

To me, Home Depot is the worst place in the world.  I would rather sit in an icebox and freeze than go to an oversized tool shed. But, guys consider it their inner handyman Mecca. Men love fixing and building things, so Home Depot (or Lowes) stores are always filled with an array of manly men.

5. Start To Love Toys

Men love toys. The bigger the boat and the faster the engine, the more powerful the guy will usually be. The same way women love fashion shows, guys love toy shows. Car and boat shows are places where single men are like a flock to a shepherd. If you attend a car or boat show, pick up on the finer things in life (um, Ferraris anyone?), while meeting a man to drive it.

6. Wash Your Car

Speaking of cars, most men love their four-wheelers and they like them to appear brand new. I’ve spent a significant amount of time at car washes (thanks to always dating men who are car lovers) and I’ve noticed that they were usually filled with men. Head to a car wash and remember that your car can never be too shiny.

7. Be Tech-Friendly

True or false? Men are into electronics. Men love technology and are always looking for new phones and exciting gadgets. If you want to meet a tech-friendly type of guy, frequent a Verizon, Sprint, Apple, or AT&T store.

8. Pick Up a Sport


Do you like tennis or golf? Well, start to love them both! Being active will boost your confidence and help you stay fit. Golf courses and tennis clubs are places that men go to with their friends. If you join one, you can better your game, stay active, and meet new people.

9. Start Reading

Reading is a great way to escape your day-to-day troubles. Go to a bookstore and kill two birds with one stone. You can find a book and a brand new man. Some men love to learn and are always looking for reading material. If you’re browsing the same aisle, you know you have something in common.

10. Get Cultured


Experience a typical New York moment by going to a museum. Depending on what type of art you enjoy, there are various different types of exhibits you can view. If you meet a man at a museum, chances are he’s interesting and cultured. You can also brush up on some art history while looking for that prospective boyfriend or husband.

Top Reasons Why Men Don’t Call Women Back

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked but you didn’t hear from him after the first date? Did you ever text a man after a fantastic evening out and he didn’t reply?

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that men and women are very different. Men, unlike women, are logical. They don’t spend hours obsessing over everything they do. Men are simple – they either like us or they don’t. Here are 9 reasons why you might have had an amazing date but you never heard from the guy again.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. A man can think you’re gorgeous, smart, well-dressed, very sweet, and awesome, but he just didn’t feel any chemistry. If the connection wasn’t there, he won’t be asking you out again.

2. Rudeness

Sometimes women act rudely on a date. They forget to treat everyone with kindness. They aren’t friendly to doormen, waiters, busboys, or taxi drivers. There’s never a reason to be anything but nice to everyone you meet. Being bitchy or obnoxious isn’t cool. If you’re disrespectful to anyone, your date isn’t going to want to see you again.

3. Lateness Isn’t Tolerated

Arriving fashionably late is a huge faux pas. Making someone wait shows a lack of respect for the person you’re meeting. It makes people think you’re inconsiderate. If you’re late to a date, it can easily put things in a sour mood from the get-go and ruin your chances of getting a follow up phone call.

4. He Met Someone Else

Your date could have thought you were wonderful. He might have had a great time and was planning on asking you out again. And then… he met someone else the next night that he liked better. He chose to pursue her, instead of you, even though he thought you had a really, really good date. It happens all the time. Don’t take it personally, he wasn’t for you!

5. You Hurt His Feelings

Men generally aren’t as sensitive as women, but they do get offended. It’s important to always be nice. Kindness is contagious. I certainly wouldn’t want to go on another date with someone who hurt my feelings. Insulting someone isn’t nice. If you say something that your date thinks is rude, don’t expect him to call you.

6. No Future Here

Often, you go on a date and both of you had a nice time. But, for him, something was off. He could have thought you’re extraordinary, but he just didn’t see a future with you. Some men, (not all!), have an idea about what type of woman they want to marry and take home to meet their family. You could be a total catch, but he just didn’t think you fit into his life long-term.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times you might go out with someone and he had a terrific time, but he wasn’t sexually attracted to you. He enjoyed talking to you but he didn’t imagine himself being intimate with you. He put you in the friend zone from the moment you met.

8. Intellectual Curiosity

Being intellectually stimulating is essential. Men want to date a woman that they can learn from. They’re attracted to women who are curious and challenging. As an example, if he likes talking about football and politics, and you enjoy conversing about shopping and cooking, he most likely won’t want to go out with you again. Don’t be discouraged, there’s someone out there who has the same interests as you.

9. You’re Not Available

Not everyone is emotionally available. Some women don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. Often, they talk about their job 24/7 or they mention all of the things that they have going on in their life. To men, that isn’t a good thing. Men want to date someone who’s independent and has a life, but is able to make them a priority. If you come off as too busy, the chances of a second date are slim.

Now that you know the main reasons why men don’t call women back, accept it and move on. Don’t over analyze everything and get upset. Realize that you’re fabulous. If you went out with someone you liked and he didn’t get in touch with you again, move on. Know that you deserve better. There are plenty of remarkable guys out there who will want to go out with you again and will be very excited about it!

What Women Really Want In A Man from A Matchmaker

I’ve interviewed thousands of women. As a Matchmaker, it’s my job to meet droves of women and get a sense of who they are and what they’re looking for. I find out more from them in 5 minutes than you would on 5 dates. Most women think they know what they want, but they really don’t. If you ask a woman what she’s looking for in a man, she’ll tell you she wants someone tall, dark, and handsome. But if you look at her relationship history, you’ll see that’s not always true.

Men are visual and fall in love through their eyes. They’re shallow and superficial. Sorry guys, you know it’s the truth. However, women fall in love through their ears. We care more about the whole package. We value a man’s personality and how he treats us. I’m here to tell you that looks aren’t that important to all women. Most women want more than a great looking guy. Read on to see what women REALLY want!

1. Be Kind and Caring

Women want a man who is kind and caring. We want someone to come home to at the end of the day who is our best friend. Women want a partner; an equal. Above all, we want a gentleman. Women want to date someone who makes them feel fabulous.

2. Brains, Brains, Brains

Intelligence is sexy. Women are captivated by smart men. Whether it’s informing us about the newest restaurant opening or teaching us something we didn’t know about baseball, we want to date someone we can learn from.  We enjoy feeling enlightened.

3. Have A Sense of Humor

Being funny makes you more attractive to women. There’s no science to it, it’s just a fact. 100 percent of women appreciate a man who is witty. If you can make a woman laugh, she’ll almost always think you’re awesome.

4. Exude Confidence

Women like men who are confident. When you’re sure of yourself, and your actions show that, women are naturally drawn to you. Women are attracted to men who know they’re great.

5. Be Charismatic

In my dictionary, charisma is defined as having swagger, being spunky, possessing a certain je ne sais crois, or my personal favorite, not seeming vanilla-like. Whichever definition you prefer, all women love a man who is charming. When you have a big personality, women find you irresistible.

6. Practice Balance

Leading a balanced lifestyle is important. Women enjoy dating a man who can do it all. We want to date someone who can prioritize his job, family, friends, and a relationship. We’re drawn to men who make time for us and show us that we’re an important part of their life.

7. Show You’re A Good Listener

A man who is a good listener is a true catch. Because women are more emotional than men, we love to share. We can talk for hours. We have tons of stories to tell and we want you to listen to all of them. If you can listen to a woman, and I mean genuinely listen, she’ll be impressed.

8. Display Thoughtfulness

Women are enticed by thoughtful men. Being thoughtful doesn’t mean whisking us away to Miami on a third date. Although we’d certainly love that, it isn’t necessary! Being thoughtful means showing us that you care. If we mention that we love a certain restaurant, surprise us and plan a date there. If we say that we love a particular flower, bring us flowers on the next date. If we tell you that we’re eager to see a specific movie or play, get tickets and take us. A man who’s considerate is very sexy.

9. Go With The Flow

We want to date someone we can bring anywhere. If we’re at a business dinner at Per Se, we want to date a man who can go with the flow and “be fancy.” When clients invite us to their box seats at a sports game, we want to date someone who can keep up with the lingo. I won’t give you ten more examples because hopefully you get the point. We enjoy dating men who can be comfortable in any situation.

10. Be Presentable

Being put together and looking presentable is essential. Women want to date a man who is well dressed. A nice outfit can make you so much more attractive. Personally, I love a man in a nice suit. If you’re well dressed and put together, you’re showing the world that you value yourself and how you look.

At the end of the day, women want to fall in love. We want to date someone who makes us feel special and important.