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What Not To Do On A Date (For Women!)

Dating can be challenging. It requires you to be on your best behavior all the time. You only get one chance to make a first impression so there’s no room for error. Here are twelve tips to help you on a date so you can hopefully make your next date your last!

  1. Leave The Past In The Past

Everyone has a past. Some people have a colorful past and others just have a story or two. Whatever your past is, it’s most likely not relevant to your future. The past should stay put in the past. Don’t talk about your previous relationships or your custody drama. It’s not appropriate dating material. Tip: focus on who you are today and who you want to be in the future.

  1. Avoid The Baby Convo

There are very few men that enjoy baby talk. Yes, many men who love children. But on the first few dates, they want to get to know you, not your kids or your future unborn children. If you have kids, it’s impressive if they are rock stars. Pat yourself on the back because that means you did a wonderful job of raising them. You should be really proud! However, this is when your friends come in. They love hearing about your kids. Brag to your friends about your children and save your date conversation for your triumphs. If you don’t have children yet, please, please, please don’t talk about how badly you want them. Tip: highlight your accomplishments and what a great catch you are.

  1. Don’t Look Like A Hot Mess

Men are visual creatures. They can’t help it. They appreciate a beautiful woman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but all men are drawn to women who put effort into their appearance. Looking like a hot mess is quite passé. You should be put together, pretty, feminine, and fabulous. Your hair should be done, your makeup must enhance your natural beauty, and your outfit should be so great that it could stop traffic. Remember, you’re being judged here so bring your a-game. Tip: Spend a few extra minutes getting ready every morning so you feel beautiful every time you leave the house.

4. Steer Clear of Thinking Not Eating Is Cool

I hate to sound all preachy here, but food is your friend. If a man invites you to dinner, he wants you to dine. Does he want you to eat everything but the kitchen sink? Of course not. He wants you to have a hearty meal so don’t be afraid to order something delicious. Tip: Choose something moderately priced and enjoy it.

5.  Don’t Drink Until You Drop

When you’re 21, it’s cool to do shots and drink like a fish. As you mature, it’s not. You want to be appropriate when you’re dating. Getting too drunk isn’t a wise idea. Sharing a bottle of wine on the other hand, that’s totally fine. Having a cocktail or two? Again, not a bad idea. Just don’t drink until you drop. Alcohol is meant to be enjoyed. Tip: know your limit so you don’t go overboard.

6. Don’t Go Wild with TMI

Save the TMI for people you know. The first few dates are about getting to know each other, not revealing your entire life story. Sharing too much too soon about your life after knowing someone for 45 minutes is never a good idea. Focus on the positive and the things you love to do and chat about them. Tip: Slowly reveal more information about yourself after each date.

7. Don’t Be Clueless

Being informed is sexy. Knowledge is power – literally. Don’t be clueless as to what’s going on in the world. Men want you to wow them with your brains. An intelligent woman is a total turn on. Make sure you know all about the world around you. Tip: Be tuned into a few different news outlets each day so you feel well informed.

8. Get An A For Effort

The grunge look is out. Being put together and stylish is in. Put effort into your appearance so everyone knows what a catch you are. Don’t ever leave the house looking anything other than exceptional because you’re worth it. Your representation of yourself should match your self-confidence. Show everyone that you care about yourself and get an A for effort. Tip: Make sure you always feel put together and show the best version of yourself.

9. Positivity Always Wins

Happy people are fun to be around. When you have a great attitude about life, you will attract only exhilarating people. Make sure your mindset is grand so every man can appreciate you. Positive people always smile, are lighthearted, and are fun to be around. Tip: Be carefree and delightful.

10. Have Some Variety

The goal of every date is to be so fantastic that the man you were out with just can’t stop thinking about you. So how does that happen? Well, that’s easy. Have interesting opinions and talk about unique subjects. You want your date conversation to be intriguing, exhilarating, stimulating, and quite fascinating. Bring up interesting subjects so your date knows you’re memorable. Stay away from boring conversations and spice it up a little bit. Tip: Have some variety in the things you enjoy discussing.

11. Leave Work At The Office

When you’re on a date, focus on the date. Yes, you might have had a stressful day. Sure, you could have been told you have to leave early tomorrow morning for a 7 day work trip. Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. When you’re on a date, leave your work hat in the office. Your phone should stay in your bag and you should refrain from checking it on the date. When it’s time for love, work can wait. Tip: try not to mention work and put all your energy into the date.

12. Be Drama Free

Everyone has a little bit of drama in their life.  Drama isn’t cool, so it’s something you want to stay away from. Men are drawn to uplifting, smiling, enthusiastic women. Try your hardest to leave the drama at home and focus on the incredible things in your life. Tip: When you have the mindset that your life is fabulous, it becomes that way.

Read these tips a few times so they set in and they can be helpful. Don’t forget that dating is supposed to be fun!

Top 10 Reasons Why Women Don’t Call Men Back

Have you ever gone out with someone you really liked but you never heard from her after the date? Did you ever text a woman to schedule another date and she didn’t reply? Here are 10 reasons why you might have asked a woman out again and she wasn’t interested.

1. Zero Chemistry

Chemistry isn’t something that can be explained. We can think you have all the qualities of someone we want to date, but we just didn’t feel a connection. You didn’t do anything wrong, we just weren’t feeling it. If the connection wasn’t there, chances are we won’t be too excited to go out with you again.

2. You’re Needy

Women like attention. We adore it when you make us feel special. However, that doesn’t mean we want you to text us so often that we have to create a customized text tone for you. Check in with us, but don’t text us all day. If you act needy, we won’t be too eager to see you again.

3. She Met Someone Else

When we went out with you, we thought you were pretty great. We had a nice time and hoped you would ask us out again. And then… we met someone else the next night that we liked better. Even though we had a good date with you, the next guy was our favorite. Don’t take it personally, we didn’t mean to forget about you.

5. You Bored Us

Women value personality more than looks. We want to date someone who’s really, really awesome. When we’re on a date, we want you to be the talker. We don’t want to lead the conversation and have to ask all of the questions. If you were shy and a little quiet, we might not have been so into you. We want to date someone charismatic who tries to get to know us.

6. No Future Here

Often, we go on a date and we had a nice time, but we just didn’t see a future with you. We have an idea of the type of man we want to take home to mom and dad. You could be a total catch, but if we didn’t see ourselves planning our wedding on pinterest with you as the groom, we’re not likely to go out with you again.

7. No Sexy Time

Many times we might go out with a man and have a terrific time, but we just weren’t sexually attracted to him. We enjoyed talking to him but we didn’t imagine ourselves being intimate with him. We put him in the friend zone from the moment he said hello. If there was no sexual chemistry, the possibility of another date are slim to none.

8. You’re Not Ready

Not everyone is ready for a relationship. A man can say he is, but deep down, he’s not done playing the field. As mature, strong individuals, we’ve dated enough to know that going out with someone who isn’t ready is a waste of our time (and yours!). If you’re not relationship ready, no hard feelings, we just don’t want to be pursued by you.

9. You’re Not Really Available

Some men don’t realize that they come off as unavailable, but they do. They talk about how they work 24/7 and have client dinners almost every night. We want to date someone who’s able to make us a priority. If you come off as too busy, the chances of a second date aren’t so good. Life is too short to be seeing someone who can’t give us 100 percent.

10. You’re Friend-less

Women want to date a man who has a life. We don’t want you to always rely on us for social plans. We expect you to have a few friends. We want to know that if we’re busy one night, you’re not going to be sitting at home on your couch making us feel guilty for being out. If you have no friends, we’re definitely going to wonder why. Sadly, if you’re friend-less, we won’t be so inclined to see you again.